Radical solution to socialising

As promised ...

What would you say could be a proof of a success in communicating with allistic?

I would answer in a typically autistic way - it's complicated 

But to simplify I would add some condititions. It might be considered a success:

• as long as they do not forget about conversing with you right away
• if they did not get angry with you because you did say something they interpreted as offensive
• if they are willing to continue dialog without being forced to

Let's not forget that we need to be interested in having those conversations as well, and eventually it might lead to bonding and respecting each other.

One of work-colleagues from a supermarket I quit over a year ago emailed me today inviting to her farewell meeting in a pub, she decided to leave that evil place at last. It feels good to realise you left a positive mark on someone and that they liked your company enough to seek it out. 

But to the point. I wanted to explain how it happened. First time we had a conversation outside workplace and not work related it was during a meeting in a park to socialise on Sunday evening, the only time when no colleague was working. I rarely show up on events like that, even when invited, but this time I felt like I can do it. After few drinks when people became more open and willing to reveal their secrets it came out she was growing up in a child care home. We spent a good hour talking about details related to growing up without functioning family, without trusting someone implicitly, and how it influenced us. We both disagreed with a popular opinion, that someone like that would grow up to be flawed in character and unable to have family of their own at some point. She is a living proof, having a husband and 2 kids, and they look happy together.

So like I speculated anything and everything as long as it involves details, that both sides find in their area of interest. Strong feelings about something makes it area of interest.

As promised ...

What would you say could be a proof of a success in communicating with allistic?

I would answer in a typically autistic way - it's complicated 

But to simplify I would add some condititions. It might be considered a success:

• as long as they do not forget about conversing with you right away
• if they did not get angry with you because you did say something they interpreted as offensive
• if they are willing to continue dialog without being forced to

Let's not forget that we need to be interested in having those conversations as well, and eventually it might lead to bonding and respecting each other.

One of work-colleagues from a supermarket I quit over a year ago emailed me today inviting to her farewell meeting in a pub, she decided to leave that evil place at last. It feels good to realise you left a positive mark on someone and that they liked your company enough to seek it out. 

But to the point. I wanted to explain how it happened. First time we had a conversation outside workplace and not work related it was during a meeting in a park to socialise on Sunday evening, the only time when no colleague was working. I rarely show up on events like that, even when invited, but this time I felt like I can do it. After few drinks when people became more open and willing to reveal their secrets it came out she was growing up in a child care home. We spent a good hour talking about details related to growing up without functioning family, without trusting someone implicitly, and how it influenced us. We both disagreed with a popular opinion, that someone like that would grow up to be flawed in character and unable to have family of their own at some point. She is a living proof, having a husband and 2 kids, and they look happy together.

So like I speculated anything and everything as long as it involves details, that both sides find in their area of interest. Strong feelings about something makes it area of interest.