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Sunday Syndrome, the worry of Monday.

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I have struggled on Sundays for ages, the day starts well and then the fear of Monday starts to set in, anxiety becomes intolerable and a whole night is spent with insomnia. This has gone on for more years than I can remember. My wife turned round two weeks ago and said to me, “ why do you fight this? Just have Monday off and have a day of doing what you want to do”. We had the discussion that, would Tuesday become Monday? No it doesn’t. To quote the Boomtown rats,  I don’t like Mondays. I am self employed, I never have a lunch hour, that’s 4 hours, I don’t mind working on a Saturday morning, that’s 4 hours. Obviously that’s one days work. I thought my wife would be angry with me for being at home on a Monday. She is an NHS nurse and my best friend. Her answer came from the film, Love Actually through The first lobster. DER!

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  • From talking to others I think many people get this but I think it's more compounded in autistic people because Monday = uncertainty and we don't do uncertainty very well. I didn't get it when WFH during lockdown! I don't work Mondays now. I have found i don't get the same "demand" anxiety on Sunday having to go shopping or do housework so that's taken the edge off too. Life is too short and if you can work around it, go for it.

  • in reply to out_of_step

    Any day is uncertainty, for me; even though I have certain hard commitments.

    I could never handle an interview; in spite of all the Interview Skills, in the World. The Theory, I know, but real life means me freezing.

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  • in reply to Desmond79

    Thank you for being an anchor in this place. X

  • in reply to Desmond79

    Yes I always wondered why every or most mornings I'd feel sick. Even after having had CBT, I'd go over in my mind that there would actually be no problems that day, and if they would, they'd be minor and I could sort them out, that I still felt uneasy. Then I came to the conclusion if I'm going out to work that means being around people or being out the house which means uncertainty. I've been like this since primary school. 

    I haven't had a job interview for years but similarly with CBT, I understand and *get* the theory but it doesn't always work.