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How to make her get diagnosed

Mic

My wife experiences long periods of unexplained stress, anxiety, meltdowns, can hurt herself, often misinterprets what is being said (giving words other meanings than they have), always blames someone or something for whatever wrong happens, etc.

I went for a few consulting sessions, each with the same result: I should tell my wife she might have ASD and should get diagnosed.

I told, maybe not the best way, she completely rejects, gets even more anxcious and frustrated. I do not mean anything wrong. I am absolutely convinced a diagnosis or at least a talk with an ASD specialist would help her understand what is going on in her. No way she would go. She admits she has problems but rejects any kind of solution. 

Anyone experienced something like that? Is there a way to make her at least speak to someone, not neccessarily get diagnosed?

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  • Don’t make her. It sounds like she may be very afraid and the sheer pressure of the situation is making it nigh on impossible to be open to scary ideas like that. All her capacity for stress is being gobbled up. So it’s essential not to pressure her or make her feel out of control. Be nurturing, without making any judgements or decisions on what she should do. The safer you can help her feel, perhaps the more able she might become to investigate this possibility for herself. But it must be in her own time.

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  • Don’t make her. It sounds like she may be very afraid and the sheer pressure of the situation is making it nigh on impossible to be open to scary ideas like that. All her capacity for stress is being gobbled up. So it’s essential not to pressure her or make her feel out of control. Be nurturing, without making any judgements or decisions on what she should do. The safer you can help her feel, perhaps the more able she might become to investigate this possibility for herself. But it must be in her own time.

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