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i have autism, I find it better when I have an emotional anchoer, about, another person I know that can take the focus of me or the the surroundings so I am concentrating and not getting flooded by the environment, like watching the TV I suppose. An anchor person.

Does onyone else do this and does it help much ? and who the person, a family member, support worker or friend ? Is it down to trust ?

  • The annoying issue for me, is the total disparity in the system,, post code lottery and chance.

    In surrey they set up private autism schools, in the inner cities you end up with a mental health problem due to lack of support, then you get support.(paradox). The UK is still such a country of economical and social divide. Running of crisis management because there is no pre-planning or standard guidelines being instrumented across the country.

    It would be good to have list of what assistance you should be getting if you have autism, as it seems to me that no one knows, not even the professionals involved in the condition.

    How about an Autistic Regulator body ?

    Give me the job ! Yell 

     

  • Your assumption is incorrect, True Colors.

    I'm not currently in work, and my PA's are paid for by the Tax Payer, via a 'personal budget'.

    Unfortunately, however, social support provision does very much depend on where you live, and what your local authority's eligibility criteria is.

  • NAS11521 said:

    I'm the same but I don't have someone who can take on this  role and the chance of getting an "official" supporter when you're an adult is slim to non-existent.

    Not necessarily.

    I've now got two PA's, who help me with this kind of thing, amongst other things.

    I won't lie, it was a fight to get them, but it can be done.

    The main hurdle is pursuading your local authority to take the Autism Act (or whatever it's called) seriously.

    Oh, and then actually writing your own support plan, without any help, what-so-ever (because, of course, we're the experts, right, not the social workers...)

  • That is a very good way of describing this, I do feel bad though for "using" people in this way, but in unfamiliar situations it is so much easier to have someone to focus on who you can copy and follow as an anchor point.

  • Thanks Scorpion, I feel that I am living my life hiding between someones leg like a scared child.

  • Yes, I'm the same.

    Simply having someone else there helps a great deal.

    As for the trust question, I think it depends on the situation - in many situations almost anyone will do, but in others it has to be someone I trust.