Published on 12, July, 2020
Today, after a few wobbly days at work, I have asked for a meeting with my management team to discuss the reasonable adjustments that can be made to better accommodate my needs in the workplace.
For the past 11 years in my role, I have put my needs second and, at times, I have genuinely struggled to get through it.
This was a huge step for me, but being part of this community has helped me to see the importance of advocating for myself.
2 years ago, when I received my diagnosis, I was quick to brush aside the idea of adjustments. After all, I’d survived up until that point. But I’ve since learned that that approach simply wasn’t good enough, especially considering the amount of meltdowns I was experiencing at the end of a day.
I got quite upset and tearful in the discussion when asking for the meeting, as I think it was in recognition of the 11 years of work up to this point where I have just been coping rather than thriving. But I did it. It took a lot of courage for me, as historically I’ve not been good at asking for help. But I managed it.
The date is pencilled in, and now I get to have a good think in preparation for this meeting. My aim is to now think of my context, the adjustments that can reasonably be in this role and what I’m actually asking for.
I don’t really know why I’m posting this, but it feels good to write it down. I’m sure many of you can relate to that feeling here.
That's good stuff coffee guy. It is difficult at first knowing what adjustments you might need. I think you need to live a bit with your diagnosis so you can work out how it impacts you and what you need goung forward. But you say it was 2 years ago so it sounds like now is the right time!
I don't think other people nor ourselves appreciate the adjustments we have made for others over the years. Massive adjustments without even knowing. So if you can now get something back and on your terms I hope it'll make things a bit easier. Best of luck.
thanks for this out_of_step.
out_of_step said: I think you need to live a bit with your diagnosis so you can work out how it impacts you and what you need goung forward.
I think there is a lot of truth to this statement. I think the time has allowed me to consider a much more tailored approach to me.
I also couldn’t agree more with this:
out_of_step said:I don't think other people nor ourselves appreciate the adjustments we have made for others over the years. Massive adjustments without even knowing.
It’s something I’ve come to realise more recently, which perhaps is why I’m starting to advocate for myself a little. Or at least hoping to.