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Lack of daily routine

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Does anyone have difficulty with having a lack of routine? I'm ok when I'm in work or have commitments but otherwise I seem to flim flam around. I notice other people are able to productively relax (eg I'm going to sit and watch a film then I'm going to do a work out) whereas I feel I act more on a whim. I'm getting some help to establish a better routine outside of working days because of a non autism related issue.  They've left me just to get on with it and plan myself which is fine because I know I need help with this but I feel there's an element of demand to it now. It's hard for me to establish a routine and very easy for it to unravel. Can anyone relate to it? 

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  • I know that routines are often helpful for autistic people but I have a strong urge to shun them.

    It took me years to get out of having to conform to a routine but now I am bored and lonely because everyone else is so tied up in their routine that there is little scope for spontaneity in life. 

    From a point of view of both Marxist revolution, and unexpected romantic adventure, this is clearly discouraging.

  • in reply to Deepcake
    Deepcake said:
    I know that routines are often helpful for autistic people but I have a strong urge to shun them.

    Snap! This was one reason it took me a while to be sure I was autistic! I think for me the desire to shun routine is a combo of ADHD and demand avoidance. Also there is a huge massive ginormous difference between routines imposed by others (having to get up at 7am to get to school) and routines one has self-chosen (I now like waking up at 7am! Although at this time of year it slips closer to 8 as it is so dark.)

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  • in reply to Deepcake
    Deepcake said:
    I know that routines are often helpful for autistic people but I have a strong urge to shun them.

    Snap! This was one reason it took me a while to be sure I was autistic! I think for me the desire to shun routine is a combo of ADHD and demand avoidance. Also there is a huge massive ginormous difference between routines imposed by others (having to get up at 7am to get to school) and routines one has self-chosen (I now like waking up at 7am! Although at this time of year it slips closer to 8 as it is so dark.)

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