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Parenting as autistic adult

Moonmum

Is there any help out there for a parent who is autistic themselves?

My husband is autistic and so is my eldest son. My husband finds being a dad so awful that it's breaking my heart and I fear I cannot stay in the marriage. 

I cannot find any support out there for him for parenting as an autistic parent, or for me, living with this life I didn't plan . Has anyone found anything?

I don't mean to seem to self centred I just feel so alone 

  • Absolutely! Here's a place to start:

    I've used this as a good resource many times: https://autisticmama.com/blog/ 

    I find the website a bit difficult to navigate, so I usually just go to my web browser search bar and type a few words of the topic I am researching and then add the words "autistic mama blog" to the end

  • We can all act differently towards our children, autistic or not. I consider myself at 54 to have autistic traits, but I'm awaiting official diagnosis. I have one son, played an active role within bringing him up, alongside my wife. He's now grown up, I'm very proud of him & he's thriving within his life. 

    Maybe have a sensitive talk with your husband & explain to him how you feel & whether or not he wants to have an active role within supporting his child or not. 

    You are not sounding self centred to me, as I'd always put my son first. My son is a very balanced sociable man, I struggle with socialising at times, especially outside of my tight family bubble. It's only over the last 6 months, that I've really talked openly publically about how I feel etc with regards to possibly having autism, but it's something I've had all of my life, only recently realised this, though. 

  • Hello, I am sorry you feel so alone and are going through a difficult situation.

    This organisation might be of interest:

    https://www.autisticparentsuk.org/

    This is the Autistic Parents UK Facebook page:

    https://m.facebook.com/autisticparentsUK/?ref=page_internal&mt_nav=0

    I hope these links are useful and that you feel less isolated. We are your autistic community, we are here for you.