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ASD and 57: is there any hope for a relationship?

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Since diagnosis I have come to the conclusion that all the evidence suggests there is no point in hoping for longevity in relationships. 
I am now older male which cuts my options down further. 
Am I focusing on something as a panacea and because it seems unavailable or am I being reasonable? 

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  • In answer to your title question - I hope so, I'm 57 too.  Mind you, I love my husband with all my heart but he's an alcoholic, to whit I'm divorcing him.  But I'll never close the door... there's always hope he'll hit bottom and sober up.

    To be more cheery though, there are people here who are happily married.  Also, to be honest I think my mother is undiagnosed...errr...probably...but anyway she married my Dad at 19 and they are now 82 and couldn't live without eachother.  There's got to be hope.

    Anyway, science says there's hope.  Some of us are clearly getting together with someone and reproducing otherwise our neurodivergent genes would have died out long ago, so go for it.  The right person has to be out there.

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  • In answer to your title question - I hope so, I'm 57 too.  Mind you, I love my husband with all my heart but he's an alcoholic, to whit I'm divorcing him.  But I'll never close the door... there's always hope he'll hit bottom and sober up.

    To be more cheery though, there are people here who are happily married.  Also, to be honest I think my mother is undiagnosed...errr...probably...but anyway she married my Dad at 19 and they are now 82 and couldn't live without eachother.  There's got to be hope.

    Anyway, science says there's hope.  Some of us are clearly getting together with someone and reproducing otherwise our neurodivergent genes would have died out long ago, so go for it.  The right person has to be out there.

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