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ASD and 57: is there any hope for a relationship?

NAS73180

Since diagnosis I have come to the conclusion that all the evidence suggests there is no point in hoping for longevity in relationships. 
I am now older male which cuts my options down further. 
Am I focusing on something as a panacea and because it seems unavailable or am I being reasonable? 

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  • Recently diagnosed. Not fully convinced I am on the spectrum. 45 m. But, for my whole life I wrote off relationships, I am currently in one, so it's certainly possible.

    There are difficulties though, but there are with NT relationships. In no position to give advice, but I think you shouldn't overly listen to proclamations of futility re this topic. A relationship is a complex system and a large amount of difficulties can be understood and preemptively dealt with, and when difficulties do arise, you can have measures in place, if its approached intelligently, as it likely will be.. NT relationships contrastingly by and large don't do this, they are unplanned, emotion driven entities, based on norms and arbitrary expectations.

    One advantage is that the relationship doesn't have to subscribe to social norms. You can potentially limit the relationship to what works. This can be based off limited proximity, limited time, limited environment, limited things you do together, really, you can creatively build a mutually acceptable relationship that meets your needs, not the needs prescribed by society. 

    Not saying its easy, just a little pushback to the perception its futile, as there's another side to that coin. 

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  • Recently diagnosed. Not fully convinced I am on the spectrum. 45 m. But, for my whole life I wrote off relationships, I am currently in one, so it's certainly possible.

    There are difficulties though, but there are with NT relationships. In no position to give advice, but I think you shouldn't overly listen to proclamations of futility re this topic. A relationship is a complex system and a large amount of difficulties can be understood and preemptively dealt with, and when difficulties do arise, you can have measures in place, if its approached intelligently, as it likely will be.. NT relationships contrastingly by and large don't do this, they are unplanned, emotion driven entities, based on norms and arbitrary expectations.

    One advantage is that the relationship doesn't have to subscribe to social norms. You can potentially limit the relationship to what works. This can be based off limited proximity, limited time, limited environment, limited things you do together, really, you can creatively build a mutually acceptable relationship that meets your needs, not the needs prescribed by society. 

    Not saying its easy, just a little pushback to the perception its futile, as there's another side to that coin. 

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