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ASD and 57: is there any hope for a relationship?

NAS73180

Since diagnosis I have come to the conclusion that all the evidence suggests there is no point in hoping for longevity in relationships. 
I am now older male which cuts my options down further. 
Am I focusing on something as a panacea and because it seems unavailable or am I being reasonable? 

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  • I think relationships are entirely possible, if the right person comes along. But I would also question it, Do you really want a relationship? Or do you feel you should have one? Do you want a long term relationship? 
    I myself am not looking. It’s all too much effort, and if I’m honest, I don’t need a relationship. If someone comes along sure, but I’m not going to invest heavily in it. I don’t think I would find anyone to cope with me anyway! I’m very set in my ways now. It would have to be someone pretty special to change my thinking.

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  • I think relationships are entirely possible, if the right person comes along. But I would also question it, Do you really want a relationship? Or do you feel you should have one? Do you want a long term relationship? 
    I myself am not looking. It’s all too much effort, and if I’m honest, I don’t need a relationship. If someone comes along sure, but I’m not going to invest heavily in it. I don’t think I would find anyone to cope with me anyway! I’m very set in my ways now. It would have to be someone pretty special to change my thinking.

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  • in reply to Catlover

    I sometimes want something because I don’t have an unrealistic version of it, not because I need it.  
    When I get it I see the realistic version which falls short of the ‘perfect advert version’ of my fantasy. 

    You are so right: I love my own space and I’m glad you triggered a reminder in me that that is true.