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Scripting and rehearsing conversations

NAS81317

Hey everyone. Having also read recently about the concept of scripting and rehearsing conversations in advance apparently being common in autism, I'm interested what this place has to say about it. 

In what ways do you script and rehearse conversations in advance? Personally, I really relate to rehearsing what to say in advance, but it's never felt because of social anxiety. 

I have fake conversations in my head all the time, even for ones that probably won't happen. My head feels like a letter box fulled with separate future conversations that I know I'll need to make and even for former friends who aren't around anymore. Even speaking to my family members requires planned conversation in advance, I have no idea how normal people can have spontaneous conversation for hours on end. 

I can only think of what to say in life, I don't feel authentic and never have. I'll prepare phrases, topics and even jokes sometimes. If I stopped planning, I wouldn't have anything to say. 

Does any of this sound on someone on the spectrum? Thanks 

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  • I do this exactly. I find though, that it's exhausting. Recently, I've been using the CBT mindfulness techniques to break the habit. What I am finding now is that the stammer I had as a child is aggressively back, along with huge pauses during the conversation while I try to find the words for the idea I have.

    So while this has helped with the over-taxation of the brain lol, it doesn't exactly help with witty repartee. Not to mention the sighs and eye rolls while everyone else's waits for you to finish (if you're lucky and they don't just finish your sentences for you)

  • in reply to NAS83010

    I think the ideal is to do enough scripting to be prepared while not overdoing it into obsession. If it is possible to find the balance!

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  • in reply to NAS83010

    I think the ideal is to do enough scripting to be prepared while not overdoing it into obsession. If it is possible to find the balance!

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