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Phone call to an AS charity left me crying.

Mark

Hi, I’m currently working as a supervisor but lately I’m finding it very hard to deal with. I work in a supermarket so the hours and days are all over the place. And that one thing is, the pay. I can’t afford to move out on the pay and I have no idea what to do. I feel trapped. 

I phoned up a charity to ask if there was anything they could help me with, we talked about my needs and what I find difficult. But the person I spoke to was very rude…I actually left the phone crying. 

I told them about my current job and what I do, her words were “to be honest, I think this is the best it’s going to get for people like you” I asked her what did she mean, she told me most people with AS don’t work jobs as supervisors and that she can only offer me part time low paid jobs. It felt like a dead end for me and i had built up so much courage to phone someone for help. 

I’ve had a really bad panic attack. It’s left me feeling trapped even more. I can’t breathe, I feel selfish for wanting a better job when people with AS don’t work jobs like mine. 

I don’t know what to do now. Who can I go to for some real help? I’m sick of my job and I can’t do it anymore. 

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  • It sounds to me that the charity worker was in the the wrong job, empathy came to mind. You are proving your worth by sticking with a job you don't like. I've had lots of jobs within the past & walked away from them due to my on going health issues. Had zero understanding from most employers. My sickness record was excellent, too. I've now found a job I actually like, go in early & want to keep working for as long as I possibly can (although part time now). Having worked full time most of my adult life. 

    I'm sure you'll eventually find happiness within a job you like, just sometimes it takes us a while to find it. I've worked for years within previous jobs I've actually hated, only done them for the cash & have experienced disability discrimination on many occasions. Now I'm treat equally as bad as everyone else, just as I prefer it. 

    Many years ago when I worked within warehousing I used to sit within the warehouse by myself or with one other adult at meal times, instead of the works canteen, as I couldn't cope with the close social interaction with others. So this is how stressed out work could be for me back then. This is just one example of how difficult I find socialising with others at times. If I had to go to the canteen I'd try to time it when as few other people were there as possible. 

    After being made redundant within my last job, I was at a loss in what to do, so I decided to work on an voluntarily basis for a year within a different job field, I enjoyed it, then was offered a permanent job, which I took back then. That was over 15 years ago now & I've never looked back. I've moved around to different services within the same company just for a bit of variety, but i now work within one service, where hopefully I'll stay until I retire no doubt at some point on health grounds. 

    I'm 54 now, on the waiting list & awaiting official autism diagnosis. 

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  • It sounds to me that the charity worker was in the the wrong job, empathy came to mind. You are proving your worth by sticking with a job you don't like. I've had lots of jobs within the past & walked away from them due to my on going health issues. Had zero understanding from most employers. My sickness record was excellent, too. I've now found a job I actually like, go in early & want to keep working for as long as I possibly can (although part time now). Having worked full time most of my adult life. 

    I'm sure you'll eventually find happiness within a job you like, just sometimes it takes us a while to find it. I've worked for years within previous jobs I've actually hated, only done them for the cash & have experienced disability discrimination on many occasions. Now I'm treat equally as bad as everyone else, just as I prefer it. 

    Many years ago when I worked within warehousing I used to sit within the warehouse by myself or with one other adult at meal times, instead of the works canteen, as I couldn't cope with the close social interaction with others. So this is how stressed out work could be for me back then. This is just one example of how difficult I find socialising with others at times. If I had to go to the canteen I'd try to time it when as few other people were there as possible. 

    After being made redundant within my last job, I was at a loss in what to do, so I decided to work on an voluntarily basis for a year within a different job field, I enjoyed it, then was offered a permanent job, which I took back then. That was over 15 years ago now & I've never looked back. I've moved around to different services within the same company just for a bit of variety, but i now work within one service, where hopefully I'll stay until I retire no doubt at some point on health grounds. 

    I'm 54 now, on the waiting list & awaiting official autism diagnosis. 

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