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Phone call to an AS charity left me crying.

Mark

Hi, I’m currently working as a supervisor but lately I’m finding it very hard to deal with. I work in a supermarket so the hours and days are all over the place. And that one thing is, the pay. I can’t afford to move out on the pay and I have no idea what to do. I feel trapped. 

I phoned up a charity to ask if there was anything they could help me with, we talked about my needs and what I find difficult. But the person I spoke to was very rude…I actually left the phone crying. 

I told them about my current job and what I do, her words were “to be honest, I think this is the best it’s going to get for people like you” I asked her what did she mean, she told me most people with AS don’t work jobs as supervisors and that she can only offer me part time low paid jobs. It felt like a dead end for me and i had built up so much courage to phone someone for help. 

I’ve had a really bad panic attack. It’s left me feeling trapped even more. I can’t breathe, I feel selfish for wanting a better job when people with AS don’t work jobs like mine. 

I don’t know what to do now. Who can I go to for some real help? I’m sick of my job and I can’t do it anymore. 

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  • I'm sorry you met with such a rude reception. I kind of get this person may be used to dealing with people who can't get into work at all. The unemployment rate amongst Autistic people is worse than for other disability groups. That said, I'm shocked this person can't envision better for you and has limited you in that way.

    You are absolutely not "selfish" for wanting better than you've got. We all have the right to make the very most of our potential, whatever that means to us personally.

    Do your employers know you are Autistic? I know, disclosing is a gamble and a big deal, but you could consider whether a positive approach from them might not make your immediate situation better.

    Otherwise, sounds like you need some really good general careers advice; identifying strengths, maps to potential careers where you could make best use of those and how to get into that.

    What you've got will see you ok for the mo, but it's obviously stressing you. So, you need a vision and a plan for the future. But no, no way, no how are you being "selfish". Being a supermarket supervisor is only your destiny if that's actually your dream job. Doesn't sound like it is. So, no it isn't "as good as it gets" for people like us.

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  • I'm sorry you met with such a rude reception. I kind of get this person may be used to dealing with people who can't get into work at all. The unemployment rate amongst Autistic people is worse than for other disability groups. That said, I'm shocked this person can't envision better for you and has limited you in that way.

    You are absolutely not "selfish" for wanting better than you've got. We all have the right to make the very most of our potential, whatever that means to us personally.

    Do your employers know you are Autistic? I know, disclosing is a gamble and a big deal, but you could consider whether a positive approach from them might not make your immediate situation better.

    Otherwise, sounds like you need some really good general careers advice; identifying strengths, maps to potential careers where you could make best use of those and how to get into that.

    What you've got will see you ok for the mo, but it's obviously stressing you. So, you need a vision and a plan for the future. But no, no way, no how are you being "selfish". Being a supermarket supervisor is only your destiny if that's actually your dream job. Doesn't sound like it is. So, no it isn't "as good as it gets" for people like us.

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