Societal norms

I find the ‘we all…’ in that quite triggering, though I know that wasn’t your intention. The presumption of a relationship or several in everyone’s life simply as a given seems a very NT thing to me, but it seems to be almost as prevalent in a community like this. Which is upsetting when one just hopes not to feel like an outsider even among outsiders. The ultra orthodox as a mandatory or presumed inevitable thing is so relentlessly driven  into us by the media etc. that I appreciate it’s an unconscious thing on your part and not a wilful act of exclusion  

I see your point and note that I'm no linguist. I'm also still adapting to use of language in relation to ASC so bare with me.

I think the 'we all' part is there because to me that is the assumption that is made, that 'we' equals a blanketed norm that doesn't identify the individual or diverse subset of neurotypes that exist in society and is as such what I am calling out?

Being influenced verses what we need. But I guess I'm saying that these baseline predispositions that stand as some sort of unwritten framework for 'how citizens should engage' is a dogmatic set of principles that I'm not comfortable with.

There is expectation put on us from birth, and I realise I never agreed to be part of any if it. Projections that began with my parents and are maintained by their ideals projected upon me i realise. Now a father myself, I'm questioning why I've always felt suppressed by them and how to undo the implications of those restrictions?

I see your point and note that I'm no linguist. I'm also still adapting to use of language in relation to ASC so bare with me.

I think the 'we all' part is there because to me that is the assumption that is made, that 'we' equals a blanketed norm that doesn't identify the individual or diverse subset of neurotypes that exist in society and is as such what I am calling out?

Being influenced verses what we need. But I guess I'm saying that these baseline predispositions that stand as some sort of unwritten framework for 'how citizens should engage' is a dogmatic set of principles that I'm not comfortable with.

There is expectation put on us from birth, and I realise I never agreed to be part of any if it. Projections that began with my parents and are maintained by their ideals projected upon me i realise. Now a father myself, I'm questioning why I've always felt suppressed by them and how to undo the implications of those restrictions?

Very well put. Sorry if that sounded overly defensive before. I’m so tired of feeling like nobody will ever entirely understand me, and it doesn’t take much to make me feel additionally ‘weird’. But Having put that to one side you make a very good point.