Diagnosis - help

I'm really struggling with not having a diagnosis.  I was assessed in 2016 but they said it would be unsafe to give me a diagnosis but that I seem to have 'traits'.  I was advised to contact the Autistic Society for support and read books on Women with Autistic Spectrum Disorder as I may resonate with a lot of what is written.

How am I meant to deal with life having 'traits' but not diagnosis?  I struggle in all aspects of life: I have NO friends, no one to talk to and have regular meltdowns.  I'm now off work due to mental health and physical ailments and feel like I am let down massively - possible fibromyalgia, known to be related to stress and I had an abuse upbringing by a mother who didn't want me and resented me.

What I really want is to be signed off from work to allow me time to recoup my life, get a little dog, go for walks and attend classes while completing my degree.  I can't work and study given how I am physically, and I need quiet and space to study due to ADHD and dyslexia.

Why don't I have the help I need?  I'm struggling. It's not nice being side-lined all the time and being called a 'weirdo'.

Parents
  • Just take it a step at a time.

    Get the GP to refer you for another assessment or second opinion. Then ask for sick leave. Speak to them about how you are feeling, and see what services they can offer (counselling, CBT etc). 
    Tell them about your suspected Fibro, and see if they can offer advice to help symptoms.

    Regarding ‘support’, there isn’t really any if I’m honest. But I do think a diagnosis would work wonder for you and your self esteem. I know my ‘label’ has helped me greatly. I had to use my savings to fund it, but I felt it was necessary,

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  • Just take it a step at a time.

    Get the GP to refer you for another assessment or second opinion. Then ask for sick leave. Speak to them about how you are feeling, and see what services they can offer (counselling, CBT etc). 
    Tell them about your suspected Fibro, and see if they can offer advice to help symptoms.

    Regarding ‘support’, there isn’t really any if I’m honest. But I do think a diagnosis would work wonder for you and your self esteem. I know my ‘label’ has helped me greatly. I had to use my savings to fund it, but I felt it was necessary,

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