Diagnosis - help

I'm really struggling with not having a diagnosis.  I was assessed in 2016 but they said it would be unsafe to give me a diagnosis but that I seem to have 'traits'.  I was advised to contact the Autistic Society for support and read books on Women with Autistic Spectrum Disorder as I may resonate with a lot of what is written.

How am I meant to deal with life having 'traits' but not diagnosis?  I struggle in all aspects of life: I have NO friends, no one to talk to and have regular meltdowns.  I'm now off work due to mental health and physical ailments and feel like I am let down massively - possible fibromyalgia, known to be related to stress and I had an abuse upbringing by a mother who didn't want me and resented me.

What I really want is to be signed off from work to allow me time to recoup my life, get a little dog, go for walks and attend classes while completing my degree.  I can't work and study given how I am physically, and I need quiet and space to study due to ADHD and dyslexia.

Why don't I have the help I need?  I'm struggling. It's not nice being side-lined all the time and being called a 'weirdo'.

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  • Bless you. Where there is one neurodivergence there is often another, or several. You are ADHD and dyslexic already, you might well be autistic too. 2016 may not sound like long ago, but the research has moved on since then. Maybe you need reassessing.

    I am also dyslexic and a synesthete btw. 

    Even if you aren't, but are a 'near miss' so to speak, I hope we can be helpful.

    And nop! Not a lot out there for us, even with a diagnosis. Sigh!

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  • Bless you. Where there is one neurodivergence there is often another, or several. You are ADHD and dyslexic already, you might well be autistic too. 2016 may not sound like long ago, but the research has moved on since then. Maybe you need reassessing.

    I am also dyslexic and a synesthete btw. 

    Even if you aren't, but are a 'near miss' so to speak, I hope we can be helpful.

    And nop! Not a lot out there for us, even with a diagnosis. Sigh!

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