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Diagnosis - help

Pennie_Jane

I'm really struggling with not having a diagnosis.  I was assessed in 2016 but they said it would be unsafe to give me a diagnosis but that I seem to have 'traits'.  I was advised to contact the Autistic Society for support and read books on Women with Autistic Spectrum Disorder as I may resonate with a lot of what is written.

How am I meant to deal with life having 'traits' but not diagnosis?  I struggle in all aspects of life: I have NO friends, no one to talk to and have regular meltdowns.  I'm now off work due to mental health and physical ailments and feel like I am let down massively - possible fibromyalgia, known to be related to stress and I had an abuse upbringing by a mother who didn't want me and resented me.

What I really want is to be signed off from work to allow me time to recoup my life, get a little dog, go for walks and attend classes while completing my degree.  I can't work and study given how I am physically, and I need quiet and space to study due to ADHD and dyslexia.

Why don't I have the help I need?  I'm struggling. It's not nice being side-lined all the time and being called a 'weirdo'.

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  • Hi , it sounds like you have an aweful lot to deal with at present.Mental and physical illnesses often run in tandem and make life a challange to say the least.You mention that you have ADHD and dyslexia,presumably these conditions were diagnosed at some stage for you.If so,you already should have the protection afforded by a disibility diagnosis.I was diagnosed with ASD quite late in life,I just about managed to stumble my way through life before a formal diagnosis allowed me to go easy on myself.Use the diagnosis as a frame of reference to understand what my strengths and weaknesses are.There is nothing to stop you from using your own current awareness of yourself to gain a deeper understanding regardless of a formal diagnosis.A formal diagnosis affords protection in law,but life is still lived,challenges faced etc.I hope that my comments are of use to you and you regain your health and are able to continue studying.

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  • Hi , it sounds like you have an aweful lot to deal with at present.Mental and physical illnesses often run in tandem and make life a challange to say the least.You mention that you have ADHD and dyslexia,presumably these conditions were diagnosed at some stage for you.If so,you already should have the protection afforded by a disibility diagnosis.I was diagnosed with ASD quite late in life,I just about managed to stumble my way through life before a formal diagnosis allowed me to go easy on myself.Use the diagnosis as a frame of reference to understand what my strengths and weaknesses are.There is nothing to stop you from using your own current awareness of yourself to gain a deeper understanding regardless of a formal diagnosis.A formal diagnosis affords protection in law,but life is still lived,challenges faced etc.I hope that my comments are of use to you and you regain your health and are able to continue studying.

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