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Dont know best way walk away from this ?

NAS82637

Hi all

feel reached point relationship where dont know what to think are do  if should just leave without telling her just sending her text feel bit wrong but dont know what to do

are even explain this in my poor writing

lot of things dont even  know what to think about them  that gf says never talk about relationship with family or anyone else from start relationship had problem with my

family felt at times like she  trying get me stop all contact with my family saying be lot less stress if  didnt have any contact with them .

always seem come reason up look thought my mobile see what chatted about with my family are anybody else are if talking on mobile be same room as her

that started crying shouting if read books that feels she doesnt like are stupid or even saying that feel not paying her attention when told her one my interest is books and studying

tell me stupid books that read or films want to watch .

never know what mood she in most day she just sit watching films that she want watch  and just acting like not even there

never seem interested in anything i like will talk over me are get me buy books that she thinks i should read

her health gotten a lot worst where she bed bound now and may need operation and her breathing getting worst she refuses at times  see doctor even do she

in lot pain can barely move feel bad thought leaving her but become to much  like she point pressure on me do everything .

constant feel of never know what going on she tell me like she hiding things time ex bf who she says doesnt trust anymore phone up she telling him all about her medical appointments

that never mentioned to me  or when friend phone up that she needed him help her move some stuff that he didnt know about me and she wanted see him on her own

mentioning  that her ex bf didnt like her friend visiting house some reason  .

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  • Most of us on this planet are not raised in the best situations, nor with ideal parents. We might experience a lack of parenting and no one helping us into adulthood. So by the time we're biologically read to have children and find a mate, we're far from ready emotionally or psychologically. 

    It sounds to me as though she encountered something genuine and loyal in you which made you attractive to her.

    But slowly realised that there's something missing in the connexion (like most NT / Autistic relationships). She misunderstood this lack of connexion for lack of interest. Or misunderstood this difficulty relating with you as a type of Rejection. And perhaps, like most Neurotic (NT) individuals misunderstood this as "Mystery" or a NeuroTypical game of hide and seek. Some NeuroTypical men are actually taught to be dismissive, cold and cruel to NT women as a way to make them dependant or as a mind-game which apparently encourages desire and intrigue. I find it disgusting, but apparently, there's a pay off as one rule is that you have to give them a reward occasionally, much like training a dog. Women play games too, so I guess maybe that neurotype can get bored easy, who knows.

    Autistics don't operate like this. 

    What's happened is she has mistaken who you are and wouldn't be able to understand without an autistic female friend. But what happens is resentment builds. And over time, that takes a toll on health.

    For your sake and hers, everyone should have some breathing space. And if you want to break up, just tell her direct. You can say something as simple as I care about you but this doesn't work for either of us. 

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  • Most of us on this planet are not raised in the best situations, nor with ideal parents. We might experience a lack of parenting and no one helping us into adulthood. So by the time we're biologically read to have children and find a mate, we're far from ready emotionally or psychologically. 

    It sounds to me as though she encountered something genuine and loyal in you which made you attractive to her.

    But slowly realised that there's something missing in the connexion (like most NT / Autistic relationships). She misunderstood this lack of connexion for lack of interest. Or misunderstood this difficulty relating with you as a type of Rejection. And perhaps, like most Neurotic (NT) individuals misunderstood this as "Mystery" or a NeuroTypical game of hide and seek. Some NeuroTypical men are actually taught to be dismissive, cold and cruel to NT women as a way to make them dependant or as a mind-game which apparently encourages desire and intrigue. I find it disgusting, but apparently, there's a pay off as one rule is that you have to give them a reward occasionally, much like training a dog. Women play games too, so I guess maybe that neurotype can get bored easy, who knows.

    Autistics don't operate like this. 

    What's happened is she has mistaken who you are and wouldn't be able to understand without an autistic female friend. But what happens is resentment builds. And over time, that takes a toll on health.

    For your sake and hers, everyone should have some breathing space. And if you want to break up, just tell her direct. You can say something as simple as I care about you but this doesn't work for either of us. 

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