Mutual bafflement

I'm autistic, so I experience. let's call them regular, complications in communication and social relations, not reading body language, and mis-showing own feelings (half of autistic is alexithymic), misinterpreting intentions and hidden messages when dealing with a person for the first time (double empathy problem) etc.

But there were situations when both me and allistic person, I knew and worked together for a while, agreed that they understand my theory of how to replace an existing process with a new one, that it might seem to be convoluted at first but in fact it would make the task done faster and requiring less effort, and that I was right about it taking less time and effort.  Except, despite right after 'demonstratration', honest believe and claiming that they understand and that they will be able to repeat the process, so far there was nobody able to that, and in most cases to remember even ever.

And that baffles me in return. Did they mask being completely baffled and clueless, faking right responses? Or do they just don't care about improvements, including improving oneself to be more efficient while spending less efffort? Or was it is just me missing it, while they were ffaking being polite? 

Those are rhetorical questions. What I'm trying to achieve is to find a way to explain so they understand it enough to be able to repeat it. There was few 'improvements' I came up with over years, while working for 7 years in one place allowed feeling that people are familiar with me enough to listen at least when I present it in one of my my 'demonstrations'. 

Generalising them they sounded like: to complete the task one need to perform actions from A to Z, and doing them in that order it takes 1h, I propose a slight change in order those actions are performed, so starting from B, through C, than A, and so on, we can observe that some actions performed one after another take ammount of time equal to the time needed for one of them only, B and K merge into BK, and in the end, overall process takes 45min instead of 1h (e.g. I did ''How to work a pallet of alcohol faster'').

I'm baffled again, that's the only misunderstaing that I decided to remain baffled when it happens, all other I just ignore, as 'so be it'.

  •  you're right, it's deceiving.

    But it's nothing.compared to being unable to tell when my mom is doing it

    switching on some light "theatre mode"

    it looks like I have something to think over.

  • ha ha I don't think dancing is required but switching on some light "theatre mode" when longlasting impact is required is a trick people use at serious conferences. Anyway I was just offering an alternative to being deceived by people. 

  • oh no, I'm not going to dance Stuck out tongue

    How am I to guess what feelings  or stories to attribute to improve retention? Amother unsolvable conundrum I'm affraid, Asking them anything is  pointless as 9 out of 10 rtimes they can't explain, and I hear ''watch and learn'', and I watch and I can't make any sense of their movements

    Don't worry. It was sort of venting. I didn't expect to find an answer. Anyway I might lose a job soon and than it won''t matter for the next few years, 

  • May I suggest another possibility: They understood at the time but not deeply enough to be moved by it afterwards? Most people think in agents so they need what marketers call "story telling", that is some kind of personification of the processes that attributes emotions to things. That helps most people to make sense of abstract concepts or at least remember them longer.