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Not being allowed to be diffrent

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Hi I am 52 and only found out about ASD two years ago. I always knew I was diffrent and as a kid unless you were disruptive at school nobody ever really looked hard. I was a sickly child and at one point there was talk of sending me to the 'special' school which I fought against. Looking back they may have found my ASD there? Anyway I was never allowed to be anything less than 'normal' as a child. I was a very average child and was never disruptive or in trouble.

I just wonder how things could have been diffrent? Outwardly I am married, have a mortgage, always had a job, and have no kids by choice (probably down to ASD). But have always spent a life masking and trying to fit in, which is exhausting. I guess I am not alone in being like this at this age? I am wondering how would have my life had been diffrent with an early diagnosis? Alternativley how would things be diffrent now if there was no such thing as a ASD diagnosis now and everybody was just left to get on with it?

Rob

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  • i hear you. diagnosed at 40. lifelong struggles with anxiety and latwr depression. sickness soon followed and i have Crohns disease.

    persoanlly, i think an earlier diagnosis would have given me an excuse not to try. So without it, i have endured and am veey proud of my achievements un light of being on the spectrum.

    i think in many ways, society's ignorance to what autism really is for many people would have been a limiting factor in my life, so the survival ive maintained has been the best i could hope for.

    i hopw though, one day, my son might be treated better if he dies in fact turn out to be on the spectrum

  • in reply to JT

    I think that had I been given a childhood diagnosis, I would not have become as resilient as I am. I also feel that I would not have challenged myself to do difficult and uncomfortable things, the things that allowed me to reach the goals in life that I really wanted to achieve.

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  • in reply to JT

    I think that had I been given a childhood diagnosis, I would not have become as resilient as I am. I also feel that I would not have challenged myself to do difficult and uncomfortable things, the things that allowed me to reach the goals in life that I really wanted to achieve.

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