Hi all advice needed as I feel I have lost my uni friends
I am at uni going into 4th year . We had to do a 6th month placement as part of the degree . I had 5 friends in uni one was my best friend something I have never really had before . 1 friend transfer near home she was my close friend after best friend . The other two my best friend didn’t really like for the first 3 years “not her kinda of people” . They all got placements close to each other me the other end of the country 3 hours away they did loads together never even asked if I wanted to do something for a weekend etc despite saying I would . went best friend came back I went to see her twice . Since then my best friend isn’t replying to messages for day . I asked if she wanted to go to this welcome back event she said maybe will let you know . Now Two weeks later I dropped one other friend a message asking if she was doing any welcome back activities she said the three were doing out to the same event . I said oh I told BF I wanted to do that . They then said get a ticket and come . Went on line all tickets sold a week ago .
Within minutes BF opens the 3 day old message saying she off to that event and I should come . I said I couldn’t get a ticket all sold out . I have tried to make other plans with BF for various dates in the next 3 weeks she always busy staying for one of the intro week her and than other two are going away first she mentioned to me . Then finished with we will see each other soon. Dreading having to try make friends again I find it horrid I was surprised at having 5 uni friends Thought I would never get one . Now I feel like I am starting again with people who already have friendships groups
My house is only shared with one other person who’s kinda friends with the two others but she nice and has her own interests and groups of friends not sure she wants me tagging along . Cose to live together as we both don’t like mess etc so get on well . Only think I can see being a problem is that I do plan to go home 3 days a week Thursday evening until Sunday evening timetable allows and I have hobby’s back home . I also get great relief from seeing my dogs .
Another option is I know someone who’s coming to my campus she will be first year on a different course but is a year older than me . I know her because she has the same hobby as me. My mum suggested I try develop this relationship as she a nice girl with similar interests . I have tried to send messages/ have convos when I see her about moving in etc said things like let me know if you need anything or if you wanna come over as she living with freshers etc . She said would be nice to see you so guess that’s positive .
Also likely she will join the society for the hobby we have . I didn’t going in first year as I was too anxious to go alone . Then covid for second year etc . Should I just jump in and go as I know i interact with people better around my hobby
I am stressing myself no end with all the what if I am alone with no friends ?