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Disliking ''How are you?''

Mariusz

It happened in an unexpected way as always, the end of reasoning and final conclusion to ''Why I don't like being asked how I feel'' stopped me on a way to the toilet. Stuck out tongue

I know why now. It does not matter if I'm good or bad at the moment of being asked, and it was leading my reasoning astray, I was wrong to think I don't like it only when I'm not good. The truth is, I would never be allowed to give full answer. It would have been interrupted with one of many reasons, e.g. stop complaining, you're weirdo, and giving half an answer is misleading. I've felt bad after, or worse than before, and I couldn't tell why exactly, or what I feel, but  I identified that feeling at last, as feeling like a liar.

It's funny as most of the time any answer to that question is a lie, and they keep forcing us to do it. So, the answer was right in front of me, congrats Mr Hilary

I begun to practise dodging answering, we'll see how it goes.

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  • I've personally decided it's technically a command prompt for a particular answer to fill silence and awkwardness so we don't accidentally stare into the abyss of another's windows to the soul and and get sucked in LOL

    For years I absolutely dreaded it. I think most Autistics do. Most of us don't: 1. Know how we're feeling at any particular moment and might need time to think, 2. Are lost in another thought we'd prefer not to be interrupted from, and 3. Fail to see the point of this silly overbearing exchange until we end up in a forum and offer an official complaint to others just as irritated by it.

    In the US it's always just another competitive dominating tactic. In the UK, it's not as bad expect for one particular controlling "type" who likes to interrogate with "Are you well??" followed by "you good?" followed by several more toxic positivities... 

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  • I've personally decided it's technically a command prompt for a particular answer to fill silence and awkwardness so we don't accidentally stare into the abyss of another's windows to the soul and and get sucked in LOL

    For years I absolutely dreaded it. I think most Autistics do. Most of us don't: 1. Know how we're feeling at any particular moment and might need time to think, 2. Are lost in another thought we'd prefer not to be interrupted from, and 3. Fail to see the point of this silly overbearing exchange until we end up in a forum and offer an official complaint to others just as irritated by it.

    In the US it's always just another competitive dominating tactic. In the UK, it's not as bad expect for one particular controlling "type" who likes to interrogate with "Are you well??" followed by "you good?" followed by several more toxic positivities... 

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