Disliking ''How are you?''

It happened in an unexpected way as always, the end of reasoning and final conclusion to ''Why I don't like being asked how I feel'' stopped me on a way to the toilet. Stuck out tongue

I know why now. It does not matter if I'm good or bad at the moment of being asked, and it was leading my reasoning astray, I was wrong to think I don't like it only when I'm not good. The truth is, I would never be allowed to give full answer. It would have been interrupted with one of many reasons, e.g. stop complaining, you're weirdo, and giving half an answer is misleading. I've felt bad after, or worse than before, and I couldn't tell why exactly, or what I feel, but  I identified that feeling at last, as feeling like a liar.

It's funny as most of the time any answer to that question is a lie, and they keep forcing us to do it. So, the answer was right in front of me, congrats Mr Hilary

I begun to practise dodging answering, we'll see how it goes.

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  • Therapists do that all the time, then don't listen to the full answer then get the wrong end of the stick a) because they didn't listen to the full answer b) were distracted by what they expect things to mean to an NT without paying proper attention to what they actually mean to us. And that is if they framed their question specifically enough for us to produce a succinct answer in the first place. Often, the question is so open one of two things happens; a) you tell them everything about everything that you feel cos you don't know where to start or b) look like a confused gold fish and say nothing because you don't know where to start.

  • Therapists I find usually dont actually listen to your answer, they just go by whatever they expect you to say from the textbooks theyve read

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