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I can't relate to most autistic people

NAS81714

I find it so hard. I don't feel like I'm a part of either the neurotypical or neurodivergent commmunity. Ive been diagnosed with adhd so a lot of typical autistic traits don't apply to me...I'm in an autistic coaching group with other young males but they all seem to be interested in stereotypical autisitc traits like having an interest in dugeons and dragons and stuff like that. I want to meet new people but it seems everything is so forced in meetup groups and is aimed for "geeky" people like that.

I don't really have any "special interests". I like working out, driving, writing. I'm a straight white male, 19, and my interests or more or less the same as NTs my age: i was briefly at university and I enjoyed clubbing etc and going out getting drunk, but it seems most autistic people don't like that? I can be successful with women as well although nto as much as NTs...

Had to go to my local mental health centre the other dya because I think a relapse in my depression started and they gave me links to local autistic groups...all of which seem to focus on people with severe, low functioning autism rather than being mildly high functioning autism, but mild enough to have social difficulties etc. 

It feels hopeless.

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  • That's a pretty Autistic post in and of itself in my opinion...

    And whilst waiting for your turn to "get off your face, and get laid", why not, maybe, find ways to use your time either profitably, enjoyably or in the service of others?

    Or any combination you can manage! Fill the time in between the empty experiences with worthwhile ones..

  • in reply to I Sperg

    Autistic post?

    I don't deny I have autism. I know I do it just feels much milder in a lot of ways than other people. I think a lot of it is cancelled out by the ADHD.I certainly have never had "meltdowns" or anything like that

  • in reply to NAS81714

    Yep. I've read a LOT of Autists output now, and it qualifies for me based on content alone. It's not a criticism or praise, simply an observation.

    As for "meltdowns" I could say the same, except I am known for having something of a temper, and privately have admitted to my self that sometime life gets overwhelming and I NEED to retreat for a while from some situations and get my head together.

    For the first 59 years before my diagnosis, I got very skilled at rationalising my emotions away and trying my damndest to just keep going, and ignore the internal cacophony at times. Now I know a lot more about who I am and why I am (and vastly more important to me), I don't keep getting blindsided by weaknesses  that I have previously been unable to admit to possessing. 

  • in reply to NAS81887

    Thanks for responding with such care to the issues I had raised.  You seem to have disappeared from this place?  Pity to loose a fellow pea from this pod.  You still out there?

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