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I can't relate to most autistic people

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I find it so hard. I don't feel like I'm a part of either the neurotypical or neurodivergent commmunity. Ive been diagnosed with adhd so a lot of typical autistic traits don't apply to me...I'm in an autistic coaching group with other young males but they all seem to be interested in stereotypical autisitc traits like having an interest in dugeons and dragons and stuff like that. I want to meet new people but it seems everything is so forced in meetup groups and is aimed for "geeky" people like that.

I don't really have any "special interests". I like working out, driving, writing. I'm a straight white male, 19, and my interests or more or less the same as NTs my age: i was briefly at university and I enjoyed clubbing etc and going out getting drunk, but it seems most autistic people don't like that? I can be successful with women as well although nto as much as NTs...

Had to go to my local mental health centre the other dya because I think a relapse in my depression started and they gave me links to local autistic groups...all of which seem to focus on people with severe, low functioning autism rather than being mildly high functioning autism, but mild enough to have social difficulties etc. 

It feels hopeless.

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  • I have a theory that ADHD is very different than Autism. From what I've read, we share the hyper-active Gamma waves in our brains, but all the ADHD individuals I know, love the chaos while Autistic individuals need their external environment and to fine-tune their hyper focus to balance it.

    Other than that, I have noticed that ADHD people are amazing at communicating well and understanding both NeuroTypes - a bit like a bridge between worlds. But everyone I know and have met are incredibly smart! 

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  • I have a theory that ADHD is very different than Autism. From what I've read, we share the hyper-active Gamma waves in our brains, but all the ADHD individuals I know, love the chaos while Autistic individuals need their external environment and to fine-tune their hyper focus to balance it.

    Other than that, I have noticed that ADHD people are amazing at communicating well and understanding both NeuroTypes - a bit like a bridge between worlds. But everyone I know and have met are incredibly smart! 

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