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I can't relate to most autistic people

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I find it so hard. I don't feel like I'm a part of either the neurotypical or neurodivergent commmunity. Ive been diagnosed with adhd so a lot of typical autistic traits don't apply to me...I'm in an autistic coaching group with other young males but they all seem to be interested in stereotypical autisitc traits like having an interest in dugeons and dragons and stuff like that. I want to meet new people but it seems everything is so forced in meetup groups and is aimed for "geeky" people like that.

I don't really have any "special interests". I like working out, driving, writing. I'm a straight white male, 19, and my interests or more or less the same as NTs my age: i was briefly at university and I enjoyed clubbing etc and going out getting drunk, but it seems most autistic people don't like that? I can be successful with women as well although nto as much as NTs...

Had to go to my local mental health centre the other dya because I think a relapse in my depression started and they gave me links to local autistic groups...all of which seem to focus on people with severe, low functioning autism rather than being mildly high functioning autism, but mild enough to have social difficulties etc. 

It feels hopeless.

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  • I can relate to a lot of what you say and don't feel typically autistic on the surface but it's obvious underneath. What I have been after is a peer group of similar people to me "high functioning". Groups near me are aimed at children, parents or people with greater needs. Or people who want friends. I too feel in between both camps but I kind of feel ok with identifying that way...it's more just wanting similar people to talk through stuff with. I too was sign posted by the mental health team to various organisations which I don't feel are suitable. Which area of the country are you? I've read similar threads recently. 

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  • I can relate to a lot of what you say and don't feel typically autistic on the surface but it's obvious underneath. What I have been after is a peer group of similar people to me "high functioning". Groups near me are aimed at children, parents or people with greater needs. Or people who want friends. I too feel in between both camps but I kind of feel ok with identifying that way...it's more just wanting similar people to talk through stuff with. I too was sign posted by the mental health team to various organisations which I don't feel are suitable. Which area of the country are you? I've read similar threads recently. 

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    I'm in south Essex.

    Even amongst high functioning though, I struggle to relate, the high functioning autistic people I have met seem to be interested in those RPG games and prefer being alone. I mostly hate being alone other than certain times of the day.

    Like I said, the meetup groups that I have been signposted to seem to be aimed at more severe autism. It's very frustrating. The NHS reffered me to their "aspergers service" and all I got was a course of online "coping skills" sessions...held in the middle of the afternoon in the working day.