Attended independent schools. No excuses for struggling?

Hello everyone,

My entire school career was spent in the independent sector and I benefited from the smaller class sizes, teaching and support.

Do I have no excuses for struggling? I went to university and after graduating in 2008, I have struggled to find regular paid work and have struggled with my mental health.

I appreciate the support and guidance on here.

  • I only recently opened up about them to my care coordinator. Mainly because of a long history  of mentioning things to my previous MH team in Essex to be dismissed/ignored and treated as 'awkward and demanding'. Also  because I doubted it was a serious enough thing to mention . CC mentioned 'bullying related trauma'.

  • its just todays modern world.... honestly, the best of the best who get private education and go on to get the highest degrees..... they cant get a job.... they even get declined for mcdonalds work...  education doesnt seem to matter anymore. the world is full of people competing for a small amount of jobs.... there is like 70 million of us here in the uk... but yet there is only room, there is only jobs, houses, infrastructure... for around 10 million only to live.... so alot are going to be let down in many sectors and left hanging... even if you get a job, you will find its just as impossible to get a house or get rent as what it was to get a job. and education no longer matters, the competition is too much that your details and qualification and education wont even be seen among the flood of 10k applicants for the same single job... and if you do get noticed there are thousands of others with similar degrees and similar advantages to the point any advantage is no longer a advantage.

    i see now my local school celebrating that it awarded like 99% of all students A grades..... now tell me.... where is the advantage in the A grade when 99% of all students have it? .... its not special anymore to get the highest grade, because everyone has the highest grade....thus the highest becomes medicore. thus employers dont even ask for grades or education anymore, they instead take anyone on and go by a system of mass staff turnover, rapidly hiring and firing until they get one that sticks and does the job well, without care for education or advantage, trial and error mass staff turnover by agency hiring.... in short... luck is all you need, nothing else matters but pure chance and luck.

  • Condolences about your experiences. Hope you've got support now.

  • I went to prep and public school from 1965-1975. I was subjected to severe verbal bullying at public school. After a short while there I became socially anxious. Increasing levels of depression came next. I first saw a pdoc while still a pupil there. I was hospitalised from there a week into what should've been my A level term. 

    Due to bullying related trauma I've avoided 'bricks and mortar' further education. Indeed apart from a short try at a history A level correspondence course in1975/76 , any kind of further education.

    I have dxes of ASD/Asperger's and schizo-affective/schizophrenia and have never worked.

  • The special treatment of autistic kids in school isn’t designed to ‘fix’ then so they won’t need special treatment later on. It’s designed to help them achieve their potential. Kids that need special treatment in school will probably need it in university (although it may take a different form) and in work as well.