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Is my exaggerated shock at unexpected events autistic?

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My response is to be too shocked with mild things.  I saw an unexpected change  on a schedule at work  and I became catatonic and could not eat.  It took two hours for the effort to wear off and for me to get used to the real importance of what had happened.  Is my response autistic?  
I don’t understand myself.

I am frightened that I will overreact and storm out of the job, or react in another self destructive way.  

I find my emotions and reactions unreliable.  It’s like I am my own wild animal mistakenly kept as a pet. 

  • in reply to Catlover

    Thank you.  Yes, I did tell them but I am wary of how to address these issues.   I believe they take me into consideration but this seems to have been an oversight  rather than a real intention on their part to get at me.  
    I sometimes think that life is intrinsically about change and the unexpected and therefore more difficult for my aversion to the change in it. 
    is it too strong to say ‘I am averse to Life’?  Life is change after all. 
    But I’m not so averse to change that I would encourage a willing murderer to take mine from me. 
    There shall inevitably be shocks and I guess I have to allow myself the necessary two hours immediately after the shocks ro recover and get used to the change which seems so unbearable, so appalling to my disordered perception.  Surely it is helpful to acknowledge my powerlessness over  the disorder and at least not fight it. 

  • It sounds like you have an aversion to change. Or should I say, you don’t cope well with it. Thus, you have a reaction. Some of us meltdown. I saw I was put on a different area and job, and it took me a few hours to settle into the role, even though I know it well.

    And another time, I could not find something necessary to complete my job. I’d looked everywhere, asked everyone. I was highly anxious, wanted to shout, was close to tears, and almost had a meltdown. I was fighting the urge to walk out and never come back. I’ve been masking my whole life, so I can usually bottle every emotion up, and then suffer the consequences when I get home.

    Try and get forewarning for changes at work. Do they know you have ASD? Have you had any adjustments made? 

  • in reply to JT

    I was diagnosed with ASD in 2018.  I was asking because i wondered whether a reader would provide a useful solution to this regularly occurring work-related issue in a way that would not endanger my ability to hold down a job.  My emotional responses seem to endanger me when I act on them impulsively instead of waiting them out, waiting for the crazy storm to pass. 

    I’ve come off setraline recently and that may have helped more than I realised. 

    if it is autistic whst are my solutions?  I’ve had cbt etc.

    What about this solution?

    I think I should expect these attacks to happen in the future and like any sickness wait for it to pass while caring for myself carefully. 

  • Possibly yes. But there are many other factors to consider.

    Read up on the DSM5 test, you can take it online. It isn't going to diagnose you, only an assessment setup through your GP can do that, but might give you some clarity

    Best of luck