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Ability to change

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I just had my ADHD assessment call and the woman cut the call early because she said I straight up am autistic so she can't diagnose, but while on call she asked my partner if she has had any success changing my pessimism or my mind/nature and my partner confidently said no.

Is something like this even possible, I'm all about logic and I understand that mental health is something hard coded into our brains, so if that's how it works, what is it that needs fixing or changing?

  • Generally speaking, humans have potential to change, usually learning new things but you also change beliefs and how you think about things.  Its not easy to do though as you need to put in effort for weeks/months, replace habits that aren't helping you with ones that do, best way is CBT therapy or self-help books, and best if your partner is involved in terms of motivation/focus but also helping you see what's not helping you.  Its changing your mindset, be more positive and optimistic, though there is also a middle-ground of being realistic about things. 

    Best thing to do is start right now, decide that its best for your partner and yourself to be realistic/optimistic instead, and keep reminding yourself of that each day.