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Wombles

Does anyone else have difficulty tolerating or dealing with friends or family when they are drunk?  I don't drink because I can't stand the stuff and don't like the feeling of being out of control.  But I also find my tolerance for friends and family is much less when they have been drinking.  I don't know if this is an autism thing because it changes their behaviour, or if I am just being oversensitive, but I would be interested in hearing other perspectives.  I would also be interested if anyone does have the same problem to know any coping strategies or how you deal with it?

  • in reply to Mariusz

    Thats exactly what Ive done. I ditched the friends that were making me feel like that. It still crops up at work events sometimes but since Im not working right now it doesnt at the moment

  • in reply to Billy87

    after 20 years of trying to do that, you come to conclusion you've been wasting your time on people that wouldn't become your friends anyway, on people that were making you feel really low, so you can as well skip them now, and use your time to find someone suitable

  • My family arent heavy drinkers but the thing I hate is the social pressure to get drunk and how you get made to feel like youre spoiling everyones fun if you dont want to

    I like to drink but I dont like getting drunk

  • I think drunk people are only aware of their own physical feelings and if that feels good to them no one else matters. 
    They are the least useful a human being could be to another human being in need 

  • Omg yes! Family getting drunk a lot was too upsetting and stressful for me - one of my top reasons for moving out actually. When I was still at home I used to turn on music or play an instrument, loud enough to drown everyone else out. This helped calm me and deal with the situation. 

  • in reply to Mariusz

    That's part of the problem I have.  I was in a long term relationship with an alcoholic and people that are drunk bring back all the horrible memories of that experience.

  • I do drink a little, a glass of wine with a dinner, 1-2 ciders soccially once a month

    but I try to avoid getting tipsy even, I don't like losing control, I did get drunk few times at uni, and I usually get either over-sentimental or cocky and reckless

    and I can't stand drunk and drunkards, my 'dad' was heavy drunkard, tormenting my mom, me and my sisters untill he drunk himself to the death after 40 years of it, shortly before christmas, some 10 years ago, the best present ever, I don't know exactly when, I avoided receiving that message, or where he is buried, it's time to erase him from my memories

    If I am forced to interact with someone who is drunk I find it hard to avoid hiding my disaproval