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Awkward things you said and done

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I'm sure many people and kids say things they don't think about if it's right to say, but it seems this is typical for people on the spectrum. So just curios about what you have said that could be seen strange.

Most are from my childhood, and yes I learned from my mistakes, and the older I got the more cognitive aware I was about what I was saying. It's not that it happened often, but it did happen.

  1. I was with a friend, that was talking to a female handball coach. One of her players had a nose that went a bit up and the nostrils were a bit big. It made her face look little like a pigs face. As I wasn't able to small chat as my friend, I was focusing on other things. From no were, I said it out loud, like it was something to be seen as funny. "She looks like a pig"! I can't forget her coach face, it was about to explode, but she said nothing. I still didn't realize what I said was something to bad.
  2. A school mate of mine brought his family to a training practice, actually his grandma/pa. I was laughing as I it seemed strange, and was telling the other in my team, look he brought all his family. I wasn't aware that I was saying something bad, I thought it was a joke, until my friend told his elder cousin, that one day stopped me and questioned me why I said this in an angry way. This family actually really disliked people speaking bad about them.
  3. I was in a retail shop like Currys. There was a large TV screen and a chair next to it. They were airing Cliffhanger on it. Basically it was like 20 minutes of the movie for people to get interested of the TV and look at the quality. I just didn't realize it. I sat myself done and was watching the movie, as I thought it was something really cool. Until today that movie is one of my favorite. But yea I didn't get that this was nothing you sit down for 20+ minutes, it's not the cinema. I didn't realize it until I got older.
    1. But there are other things I did pick up very well. A mother left her son infront of a Super Nintendo TV, but my friend didn't let him play (Super Mario), so the kid got little anxious after 5 minutes, and more or less started crying. I realized that he was not entertained away from his thoughts, so I asked him, if he wants to go with me around the shop to look for his mom, so I took his hand and we looked for his mom. And I told my friend to tell his mom that we are looking for her if she were to come. I was just a bit older than the kid himself. In these situations I act more adult than others, maybe it wasn't the right thing to do, but I was hurt seeing him getting more anxious by every second.
  4. When I was 11-12, I spend some more time by myself, I could go to a Kindergarten, when it was empty, and sit down on a swing on a summer holiday and just look up the sky and dream myself into something, and it felt like everything was good and I could be whoever I wanted in the world. I don't know if this was some kind of pre-puberty thing, feeling that I was changing and needing some time for myself to understand me better.

There are sure some more, but not that many, and as I said I did learn by my mistakes, but I'm sure many kids would never say or do this things, as they would know the social outcome of it, which I missed.

  • Back in the Eighties, there was a woman working at a Chemist in Cookstown; who was a Thalidomide Child. I said to my mum, "She's Disabled!" (I learned that word from the old Disability Awareness shows on BBC2, Sunday Mornings, that time)

  • Hello Slight smile

    At some point in primary school, I had a piece of homework. In class, we had covered a story about a family of hedgehogs trying to cross a road. For the homework, we had to use that story as a template for our own hedgehog story. My parents were really amused when I announced that I would call one of the hedgehogs in my story ‘p.r.i.c.k’ I was thinking about how to describe them, and how I could use adjectives as their names. Lol.

    Once on a day out at some beach, I was apparently a bit impatient at people grabbing the deck chairs that were supplied there. But, I made an error with the word ‘deck chair’. I protested: ‘But I want a d.i.c.k chair!’ I was again, a child lol.

    From a child and into my early teens, I made a verbal error when calling other people. I’ve often called my teacher ‘mam!’ And then hoping it went unheard so I could call them by their proper name. Hard to stop those ones from materialising though.

    At my nan’s  retirement celebration. I apparently just walked around asking people, in a composed, grown-up tone, how old they were. I don’t know why I had that bee in my bonnet, another bit of childhood curiosity.

    One time in Christmas morning mass, I said to my Nan: Nanny, I think I’d like to go home now, and have a cup of tea..’ to which many in attendance chuckled. I’ve always liked a nice cup of tea.

    In more recent years, I’m good at unintentionally breaking whatever comes into contact with my grasp. I think I’m becoming clumsier, sometimes it’s funny, and sometimes it just seems out of my control, and is unsettling .

  • When I was 13 I was invited on holiday with a person who I considered at the time to be a best friend at school. I didn't enjoy the holiday as they wanted to spend nearly every day at the hotel by the pool. I'm not like that if I go abroad I want to be out on trips  exploring the area I am visiting. At the end of the holiday I was asked what I thought of the holiday? I said something along the lines it was boring or I was bored. It was an honest answer I was telling the truth. It was boring it didn't suit me.

    Needless to say I got the cold treatment on the way home and I think they were glad when my mum picked me up. I then ended up getting bullied in school for months after by this person. I couldn't understand why my honesty meant I had to be bullied for months on end in school.  Eventually I got an apology years later even after school/parents stepped in. I have nothing to do with this person anymore and never will.  

    I guess I learnt the hard way you can't always be honest. 

  • I have done and said many tactless things.  I was only being honest but people seem to get upset and so unforgiving.

    I was living in a shared house and a very friendly cat was sleeping on one of my female housemates lap.  I told her that the cats fur looked more attractive than her legs.  She never forgave me.

    At school, at the end of the year, I was asked by the administration if I would like to move to a different class because it would make their job easier to allocate me to the subjects I was taking the following year and the level I was taking them at.  When I got back to my class the other kids wanted to know why I was called to the office.  I told them that the school asked me if I wanted to move classes. One girl asked me if I was leaving, I told the class aloud, 'Of course I'm leaving, I don't want to stay here'.  The class sent me to Coventry for the rest of the term.