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So they read I'm autistic, and start treating me like I'm breakable or Stupid!

A+B-C

Having a knee replaced soon and after asking a few questions about procedure, found I was unexpectedly booked in for a meeting with the Anesthetist, who took one look at my notes and said.. So you've got Aspergers and anxiety... I like to think I have 'got' Aspergers but I 'suffer' from anxiety thanks to assumptions like that, worrying my legitimate concerns will not be taken seriously.
At the pre-op the next week, someone who assured me "they knew what I was going through", as "she had a nephew with Aspergers", basically talked slowly and carefully as though I was going to explode.  Despite recognising I am high functioning, and hold down a permanent job etc etc.. she still spoke like I was on a high ledge and needed careful handling..  It amazes me that staff can claim to know how to do something right, then get it so wrong.  I pointed out to someone recently that they were not behaving logically or helpfully, and they said I was wrong as HR had carefully devised the training they had done on how to talk to 'Autistics', and claimed she was following it..

Have you had similar experiences, and how did you handle it?

  • in reply to NAS78828

    Chartreuse! If your going to paint yourself a colour, go for something classy!

  • if you are 'high functioning' you may as well paint yourself blue and say youre from the planet zog. cos the thats the reaction you'll get.

  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    This World is full of James Blunts! Slight smile

  • Individuals GENUINELY change once I tell them. I think NTs panic. They cannot wrap their heads around direct and succinct communication. Like it died with Orwell apparently. 

    Perhaps we need a figure we'd like them to speak as. "I'm not sure the disconnect here, but if you could just explain things in your best Bill Nighy impression from in Hitchiker's Guide, we should be able to communicate much more effectively". 

  • My GP thinks I "suffer from autism"....

    Time those of us with lived experience took over the training, let me at it I'm qualified!  I mean it actually.  Looking for some opportunities to do just that.

  • in reply to A+B-C

    Tik yer time! 

  • oh yes, my last feedback from the interview

    they were claiming to be autism friendly, all trainings and stuff etc.

    so feedback instead of one paragraph I usually get was three paragraphs long, of the same mambo-jumbo-gibberish, 

    it meant: We are sorry, but there were other more promising candidates, so we will not invite you for 2nd interview

    still nothing about what makes them better

    and I asked during interview and they confirmed that offer is for non-autistic as well, so it is still popularity contest, and we are being used to make them look politically correct

  • I hope you wrote the post slowly so we could understand Slight smile