Members here seems to share this common subject that we have some sort of issue with socializing, differently, some can talk for hours about their special interest if they have one, others just freeze completely talking with anyone, to others being able to talk with those that they have something in common.
I'm currently on holiday and live in a separated house with the hosts. They are in their 60s and talkative. For me it's very easy to speak with them, I mean I can talk about anything with them and it feels natural. Well not 100% because I still have the issue with processing info and encoding information, meaning I still feel different not being able to articulate myself as fluently as them, or make some jokes along the way ...
Then when I sit with just their daughter it just becomes awkward, we have the basic questions, were you been, what do you work with, were you going on holiday, more or less ask and reply questions, that finish after 5 minutes, then it's hey we have nothing more to talk about, and you just want to run away. But with her parents we went all from holiday to politics, you name it.
The elder man is very intelligent, he worked as a electrician at a power plant, and he could talk details about his work, events that happened, something I can't about my job, and he is the one that is supposed to be NT. If I'm ND wouldn't it be that should talk about details in my work for hours. I can't I just relate to things that are in my mind, some analyze I have made about something, for example if we talk about politics, I could say what I think about a specific event, but not very well, I don't feel I can do it on a highly intellectual way, it's just what I concluded.
It's always been like this, I have much easier to talk with adults (elderly), or those that are the driving force behind the conversations, I just fill in the holes, and do it on a good level, but when it comes talking with people that want me to be the driving force, then it completely shuts. I could try to speak the same topics as I spoke with her parents, but it wouldn't work, and I don't know I have no strategy to come up with something that could evolve into small talk.
This is my problem with small talk, is this what members here experience?
How can we do all these high intellectual things that are required in life, putting things together, being able to understand, memorize, do math's, score well on tests, differentiate between good/bad? But can't do a basic thing as small talk with someone we have not much in common with.
