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Social Rules

dccwal_90

When I filled in a referral form for the local Integrated Autism Service (IAS) I was asked 'Do you have an example of an unspoken social rule that you have struggled with?'

I struggled to answer this question as I did not understand what was meant by an unspoken social rule.

Therefore if anyone can give me examples of an 'unspoken social rule' then it might help me understand what they are referring to ahead of my assessment.

Parents

  • Oh and again, late to the table with this one.. didn't get it until my assessment and it was pointed out to me that I don't do this: 

    If people ask you small talk type questions: "What's your hobby?" or "What do you do for a living?" they are asking either a) to sus out whether you are their type of person, or b) worse, are just filling a conversational vacuum, more than actually wanting to know.  You are supposed to reciprocate with like questions and then probe their answers, whether they are of any genuine interest to you or not.  So, for example:  Question:  "Where are you from?", Answer: "I come from Newcastle" Probe:  "Really, lovely city. Do you like living there?"

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  • Oh and again, late to the table with this one.. didn't get it until my assessment and it was pointed out to me that I don't do this: 

    If people ask you small talk type questions: "What's your hobby?" or "What do you do for a living?" they are asking either a) to sus out whether you are their type of person, or b) worse, are just filling a conversational vacuum, more than actually wanting to know.  You are supposed to reciprocate with like questions and then probe their answers, whether they are of any genuine interest to you or not.  So, for example:  Question:  "Where are you from?", Answer: "I come from Newcastle" Probe:  "Really, lovely city. Do you like living there?"

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  • in reply to Dawn

    I'm thinking about next interview, I'll have one eventually, I'm tempted to do turn it into parody, mocking what has become of it.

    If you disclose  you'ree autistic, you can have notes with you

    I would have lots or notes, one loooooongt piece of paper, written all over, I could mumble to myself seemingly to help me find something on a list, but so they could hear it, .I would comment on their clothing, saything it must be awafuly uncomfortable, itchy and hot in them, I would offer to open a window, and go to open without yes right away, and on an on, do you think they would ask me out?

  • in reply to Dawn

    I find I have a script these days for when I have to interact with new people and I just say that script to everyone. It makes for some quite boring conversations but at least I know Im not putting my foot in it and sometimes it progresses to something more interesting