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Social Rules

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When I filled in a referral form for the local Integrated Autism Service (IAS) I was asked 'Do you have an example of an unspoken social rule that you have struggled with?'

I struggled to answer this question as I did not understand what was meant by an unspoken social rule.

Therefore if anyone can give me examples of an 'unspoken social rule' then it might help me understand what they are referring to ahead of my assessment.

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  • When people ask "how is it going?" when they meet you in the street but obviously don't actually mean that as they keep walking by and have gone before you have thought of what to say.

  • in reply to NAS79256

    Oh I do that anyway.  My default is "hiya, alright" There's a lot of dog walkers near me who we have a mini 5 second conversation with each other as we walk past each other.  

    On a separate note.  I remember as a teenagers when hugging as a greeting or taking leave  first became a "thing". I still do it but it's weird if it isn't my family or partner. 

    I remember learning early on that saying "I'm sorry" to someone when they had received bad news didn't mean I was responsible.  I used to think it was strange when people said it.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    I have been advised to say something similar but somehow it just won't come out. I like to just say "hello" and smile as I keep walking, and hope that the other person will also just say "hello", smile and keep walking. The "Hiya, alright" thing gets me every time, as if it enters the wrong part of my brain or something. I open my mouth and literally nothing comes out, and then I worry that I am coming across as being rude. I have been told to reply with a simple "fine thanks, you?" but NOT to expect them to reply. I just can not bring myself to say it for some reason.

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  • in reply to Deleted User

    I have been advised to say something similar but somehow it just won't come out. I like to just say "hello" and smile as I keep walking, and hope that the other person will also just say "hello", smile and keep walking. The "Hiya, alright" thing gets me every time, as if it enters the wrong part of my brain or something. I open my mouth and literally nothing comes out, and then I worry that I am coming across as being rude. I have been told to reply with a simple "fine thanks, you?" but NOT to expect them to reply. I just can not bring myself to say it for some reason.

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