No substance in what I say

I never feel substance in what I say, which is pretty much seldom aswell of me, doing an analysis of something. 

For example my friends talk about random things that happened to them or something they noticed, which I have difficulty with.

But sometimes my brain does process some things and I create a conversation about it. For example, I'm on holiday and I notice young pretty girls today being very into themselves, like only they exist. So I tell my friend, who is a very social person and analytical, "today's girls all feel like models and are out of reality, because they get so much positive feedback in social media etc., it's like you can't reach them". He agreed, and I know what I said is more or less the reality, so more or less I did process what I said with knowledge, but it doesn't feel like a conversation, or even lets say if I told someone else this like I girl, maybe she would have reacted differently and maybe tought I have something against women etc. and then I wouldn't be able to defend what I said, and would feel embarrassed, meaning I'm selective on what I say, my thinking is not univeral like I feel normal peoples conversations are, acceptable ...

All to all, I know normal people do sometimes say things that could be questioned but they would find a way to cover it up and convince you that they are right, meaning they have a strategy for what they say, I don't, I can say something without knowing why I said it, or why I felt so, meaning in a group it could be misunderstood by some that don't relate to what you say, and I would say it because I don't know how all would react, only to find out later by their look in their eyes, facial expression or if they would question you. 

Is this an autistic trait? Like trying to small talk but having difficulty with the substance of the talk. 

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  • First, there's little of substance in judging females, or anyone for that matter. Young women are being given signals in society that tells them they will only survive and be included if they measure up to a certain set of standards. This may mean focusing on appearance in order to not be marginalised or forgoing education and focusing on finding a mate because they are being told their only worth in society will either be as a wife, mum or something else robbing them of invested time in education. Young males have their own battles.

    What sort of substance are you looking for? Would you like wisdom? Courage? Knowledge? Or do you want to work out what sort of small talk will afford acceptance with a particular peer group. If you're looking for daily affairs, read the newspaper. Study a good journalist or columnist. Go to a bookstore, a library, or listen to a philosophy podcast. Start somewhere. Find books or audiobooks on things you enjoy and study. Substance is typically referred to when we suggest an older, wiser, kinder and knowledgeable individual, with good taste, respectfulness, who affords dignity to others. 

    That is something a lifestyle with intention and purpose will then create in you.

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  • First, there's little of substance in judging females, or anyone for that matter. Young women are being given signals in society that tells them they will only survive and be included if they measure up to a certain set of standards. This may mean focusing on appearance in order to not be marginalised or forgoing education and focusing on finding a mate because they are being told their only worth in society will either be as a wife, mum or something else robbing them of invested time in education. Young males have their own battles.

    What sort of substance are you looking for? Would you like wisdom? Courage? Knowledge? Or do you want to work out what sort of small talk will afford acceptance with a particular peer group. If you're looking for daily affairs, read the newspaper. Study a good journalist or columnist. Go to a bookstore, a library, or listen to a philosophy podcast. Start somewhere. Find books or audiobooks on things you enjoy and study. Substance is typically referred to when we suggest an older, wiser, kinder and knowledgeable individual, with good taste, respectfulness, who affords dignity to others. 

    That is something a lifestyle with intention and purpose will then create in you.

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