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1-2% autistic

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Can this be true? I think it's way more since the spectrum is so broad. Lurking on this board everyone here articulate and write like any normal person, probably even better than your random Joe. I would never tell that this was a forum for people diagnosed with autism if it was the same people for a different thing. 

Growing up, in school etc. with the autism critirias as hard to small talk, form and keep relationships... majority of the people in school/uni have difficulties with this. Why do you think people drink, to open up more from their locked personality. Of course you always have the smooth talkers and intelligent but they are a minority compared to people that mostly shy away or don't have a good amount of things to talk about.

I really know more guys that couldn't keep a telephone conversation for 5 minutes than guys that could talk for hours.

Sure it's the social cues as well. But those that understand social cues and facial expression why aren't they all talkative people? What is keeping them away from expressing themselves? 

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  • that percentage doesn't take into account undiagnosed women, they're far better in masking. Masters of disguise.

    telephone conversation and talk for hours are two different things

    I can't do former without extreme stress. I can do latter,  literally talk people to the death. Being alexithymic as well, unable to read social cues and facial expression helps with that, I don't see when people want me to stop. But not when it comes to expressing my feelings, it's to complicated to do it in public. And I learnt it as an adult. Until then I had trouble saying one full sentence sometimes. E.g. at school. when everyone starts laughing sometimes before I start talking. 

    anon said:
    What is keeping them away from expressing themselves? 

    Being affraid of judgment, if you constantly get a negative feedback, all your life, starting from parents, you stop doing it.

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  • that percentage doesn't take into account undiagnosed women, they're far better in masking. Masters of disguise.

    telephone conversation and talk for hours are two different things

    I can't do former without extreme stress. I can do latter,  literally talk people to the death. Being alexithymic as well, unable to read social cues and facial expression helps with that, I don't see when people want me to stop. But not when it comes to expressing my feelings, it's to complicated to do it in public. And I learnt it as an adult. Until then I had trouble saying one full sentence sometimes. E.g. at school. when everyone starts laughing sometimes before I start talking. 

    anon said:
    What is keeping them away from expressing themselves? 

    Being affraid of judgment, if you constantly get a negative feedback, all your life, starting from parents, you stop doing it.

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