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Throwing

Billy87

When I have meltdowns I tend to throw things, (not at people but at the wall or accross the room) 

I really have no idea how to stop or seem to have any control over it at all. In the past I've broken phones, car windows, my fidget toys and other things. This morning I had a meltdown with hardly any warning and ended up throwing the remote at the wall and smashing it. Now we can't watch TV until we get a new one.

It destresses my wife terribly. Partly cos she grew up in a house with a lot of throwing so it triggers bad memories and also because our autistic son throws things a lot too so she has to cope with it from both of us. I hate destressing her like this and I want to stop throwing but when I'm in a meltdown I seem to have no control over it

My question is, does anyone have any advice about how to stop myself throwing things? Are there any particular techniques that work, or mental processes? Perhaps there are certain fidget toys or sensory aids that can stop throwing. I don't know but I'm up for trying anything. All suggestions are appreciated 

  • in reply to Oakling

    Thank you, its comforting to know you can relate. I'm never violent towards anyone else either, I hit myself in the head a lot but I never hit anyone else and when I throw things it's always at the wall and never at people. 

    I can relate to the hitting things out of your head, when I hit myself its like im trying to hit the pain and confusion out of my head

    Maybe your right, maybe I am trying to throw feelings and sensations out of my head, I hadnt thought of that. Maybe it could also be a way of showing Im in pain if that makes sense, Im not really sure

  • Firstly I’d like to apologise because I don’t think I’m able to offer advice as such on this, but I do feel it necessary to comment due to how relatable I find this post.

    Meltdowns for me are quite distressing for those around me too, or have been historically, as it often involves hitting myself. It started as hitting walls as a child and slowly progressed to punching myself in the head and hitting myself in the head. It really doesn’t happen often, and is never targeted towards someone else. I find violence towards others abhorrent. But when it does happen, it seems quite out of the blue and is usually triggered by something linked to noise.

    Its almost like I need to ‘hit the sensation out of my head’ is how I’ve described it in the past. Perhaps you ‘throw it away’. I honestly don’t know, but that was a thought I’d had on the matter. 

    As I said, I’m sorry for the lack of advice, but I can definitely relate and felt the need to highlight that.

  • in reply to HP35

    Thats a good idea 

  • Could you keep things close to hand that won't break or hurt anyone if thrown? Soft toys etc?