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How can i develop a Sense of Humor

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I am 21 and have recently been diagnosed with autism. I remember a few times when I was a lot younger, female members of my family telling me "you have no sense of humor" as a sort of joke. Now I am 21, and I am realizing my friends are having to explain jokes because I am taking them literally, and I just cant keep up. How do I develop a sense of humor so that I act more normal? I am really struggling to meet new people and I don't know what to do. I feel like a nuisance to the friends that I do have, because I cant get on with them and make them laugh. What is a good path to fix this? thanks to anybody that can help.

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  • Do you struggle with analogies? If not, that may be a place to start. When you think about situations that aren't immediately linked, but have things in common, a lot of humour draws from that. It's good practice in communication anyway, because if you can explain something new in terms of a familiar situation, it often takes fewer words to get your point across. 

    In my experience, most jokes in conversation are either funny because they are true, but expressed in an unusual way, or decidedly not true.  It's funny because the analogy is right or ridiculous. 

    That said, comedy is decidedly based in cultural context. That's why it's so hard to translate non-physical humour.  A joke in Aberdeen won't necessarily be funny in Kathmandu. It all depends on language, context and the background of the people present. 

    Don't feel badly if you don't understand jokes, or need them explained. No one gets all the jokes, you would have to know everything in the world to get all the references.  

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  • Do you struggle with analogies? If not, that may be a place to start. When you think about situations that aren't immediately linked, but have things in common, a lot of humour draws from that. It's good practice in communication anyway, because if you can explain something new in terms of a familiar situation, it often takes fewer words to get your point across. 

    In my experience, most jokes in conversation are either funny because they are true, but expressed in an unusual way, or decidedly not true.  It's funny because the analogy is right or ridiculous. 

    That said, comedy is decidedly based in cultural context. That's why it's so hard to translate non-physical humour.  A joke in Aberdeen won't necessarily be funny in Kathmandu. It all depends on language, context and the background of the people present. 

    Don't feel badly if you don't understand jokes, or need them explained. No one gets all the jokes, you would have to know everything in the world to get all the references.  

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