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Difficult days

Oakling

I am experiencing a difficult day for reading people today. It’s an incredibly busy and challenging day at work today full of change. So much change that I can’t keep up and I don’t have to words to ask for help. As a result of the millions of plates I’m trying to keep spinning, I am completely unable to read peoples faces/intentions and am struggling with just about every interaction with another person. I do struggle with this area quite a lot, but it seems very prominent today.

Does anyone else experience days that are a lot harder than others? If so, what do you do to navigate it? I feel like I’m fighting a bit of a meltdown at the moment.

  • in reply to Billy87

    Thanks for checking in. Things have  stayed about the same to be honest. Although things haven’t got any better, they haven’t got worse either, which is a positive. 

    I find reading people to be such a learned skill, something that requires focus and effort (probably why burnout happens). When we get tired, any skill requiring focus becomes more difficult. I can therefore see how relaxing and calming activities can be useful. I enjoy relaxing to music too. Calming videos too actually.

  • Hope the last couple of days have been a bit easier. I think it is quite normal for us autistic people for some days to be harder than others. If I have a lot of stimulation or stressful situations to deal with, or something new to do actually, my brain compleltey loses the ablility to read other people and I can barely talk to them. I mean, I cant really read people anyway but on days like that even the little bit I can usually do I cant do

    I just try to go a bit easy on myself on those days and not expect too much of myself. Lots of music helps too and videos of things that calm me down 

  • in reply to Luna

    Thank you for your response and your kind words. I can entirely understand what you mean about waking up and finding things difficult that would usually be fairly simple. I experience this every now and again, today must be one of those days.

    Although I also think that the hectic mess of the day and the relentless changes that I had to adapt to, took quite the toll. I can’t keep up with changes in the way that many others seem be able to. Many people at work know that I find this difficult, but some days it can’t be helped.

    I made it back from work meltdown free. I’m not out of the woods yet so to speak, but I made it and that is something I should feel proud of. I ended up finding a quiet space for a few moments and listened to some of my music. The change of scene gave me enough refocus to make it through the rest of the work day. Now just to make it through the evening.

  • I'm sorry your finding things difficult today. I do relate. Some days I wake up and things come easy and other days it's so hard I don't know what to do and feels like I won't be able to do it again, like going to the shops or actually eating something. 

    When this happens I try to tell myself to keep calm and remember that it will be better soon. It can help to reassure me. 

    I hope your ok and can avoid a meltdown.

    Sending you positive vibes.