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can't handle my anxiety at school.

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 I need some advice on how to calm my anxiety during class. Normally I'll sit there for 100 minutes stressing about the possibility of being asked a question by my teacher. And whenever I have to answer a question my voice starts shaking with fear. The last time I volunteered to answer a question in class was 3 years ago. I'm changing schools in september so this is going to be even more difficult for me to deal with. I also deal with some form of trauma from being bullied and not accepted by my family, which means I have no support system at all. Therapy isn't an option because my mum does not understand mental health at all and would not pay for sessions.

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  • Do you think it’s possible to ask the teacher to speak at the end of class privately? Or arrange a time to meet after hours. If I were your instructor I’d really want to know this. Stress from anxiety will prohibit growth and learning. My goal as a teacher is to help you learn. You can offer to talk about the material after class when you feel less forced, if it helps your instructor feel confident you are learning. But a dialogue is always better for autistics due to communication error.

    It’s important to work out these problems directly with the human involved and express this impact of anxiety. I wouldn’t want to leave you suspended in this kind of uncertainty as an instructor, that feels inhumane  if it helps, when trying to convey this to the teacher, it might be helpful to pull up this thread.  It can be hard for us to convey just how impactful unresolved matters are for Autistics (being that our sensory impact is much more severe than NTs)  

    www.psychologytoday.com/.../why-we-hate-not-knowing-sure

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  • Do you think it’s possible to ask the teacher to speak at the end of class privately? Or arrange a time to meet after hours. If I were your instructor I’d really want to know this. Stress from anxiety will prohibit growth and learning. My goal as a teacher is to help you learn. You can offer to talk about the material after class when you feel less forced, if it helps your instructor feel confident you are learning. But a dialogue is always better for autistics due to communication error.

    It’s important to work out these problems directly with the human involved and express this impact of anxiety. I wouldn’t want to leave you suspended in this kind of uncertainty as an instructor, that feels inhumane  if it helps, when trying to convey this to the teacher, it might be helpful to pull up this thread.  It can be hard for us to convey just how impactful unresolved matters are for Autistics (being that our sensory impact is much more severe than NTs)  

    www.psychologytoday.com/.../why-we-hate-not-knowing-sure

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