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The advantages of my autism are... (Whinge free zone)

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Whats your advantage?  One of mine is the ability to do a very rapid data mine on a subject in under an hour on the Internet and sound like I know what I am talking about afterwards... Oh your into candle making!  Crack a few wick jokes, wax eloquently and remember the info for ever, even though I cant remember where I left my keys!

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  • "One can go so far as to say that on this planet "normal" equals insane." (Eckharte Tolle) I feel like being neurodivergent has given me a slightly better chance of maintaining an authentic individualism while staying more sane than most, discomforting though it often is, when the prescribed collective madness has the vast majority unconsciously in its grip, of necessity. In a way there's potentially more freedom accessible to autistic people. The iron price for it is continual invisible suffering, anxiety, exhaustion -  as our compromise between masking and not buying in wholesale to the ultra-orthodox causes a hard to quantify level of friction that never goes away. A foot in each of two worlds for the 'high-functioning' among us, while being judged in 100 different ways for both feet not being more firmly planted on the more well-travelled path.

  • in reply to Shardovan

    Plus i've found that the sense of balance between the two worlds can shift dramatically once we realise we're neurodivergent and maybe also feel more validated within ourselves. 

    Personally, I joined the "collective madness" whilst suppressing rather a lot.  I didn't see any alternative.  And this meant layer upon layer of masking with an increasingly shrinking, crushed and damaged self inside.  Recognising that I'm autistic and connecting with others like me (mostly online) has meant that I can at least free that damaged self up a bit and feel a bit stronger.  And also recognise and appreciate some of our autistic advantages.  The friction is still there, i agree, but knowing what's going on has made quite a difference and alters my relationship with the world.  Sort of, they're the same but I am stronger.        

    And I agree.  It doesn't make for an easy life, but it might make for a richer one.    

  • in reply to Jenny Butterfly

    You sound very intelligent and can express that all very well.

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