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The advantages of my autism are... (Whinge free zone)

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Whats your advantage?  One of mine is the ability to do a very rapid data mine on a subject in under an hour on the Internet and sound like I know what I am talking about afterwards... Oh your into candle making!  Crack a few wick jokes, wax eloquently and remember the info for ever, even though I cant remember where I left my keys!

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  • "One can go so far as to say that on this planet "normal" equals insane." (Eckharte Tolle) I feel like being neurodivergent has given me a slightly better chance of maintaining an authentic individualism while staying more sane than most, discomforting though it often is, when the prescribed collective madness has the vast majority unconsciously in its grip, of necessity. In a way there's potentially more freedom accessible to autistic people. The iron price for it is continual invisible suffering, anxiety, exhaustion -  as our compromise between masking and not buying in wholesale to the ultra-orthodox causes a hard to quantify level of friction that never goes away. A foot in each of two worlds for the 'high-functioning' among us, while being judged in 100 different ways for both feet not being more firmly planted on the more well-travelled path.

  • in reply to Shardovan

    But the problem is..... There's more of them than us so they set what's normal!  That's why we need coping strategies because as I found out over many years, confronting strategies wear me out and just puzzle the NT's who don't understand what the problem is!

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  • in reply to A+B-C

    Absolutely.  It's a case of majority rule.  I've often been met with blank incomprehension at precisely those times when I'm being more open and less guarded, possibly more confronting.  So yes, we need coping strategies.  

    But still, even though they're in the majority, their lack of understanding could be seen as a deficit, our understanding and perception a strength.  Whether that becomes more generally recognised is, of course, another matter.