Difficulty going out

Hi, does anyone else have difficulty going out?  I can just about cope with going somewhere quiet (monthly GP visits), but can't cope with going somewhere busier/unpredictable, I just melt down.

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  • Hi #Purple. I too like many of the posts before have exactly the same problem. If I'm going into town (it's a very small one comprised of one street) I'm lucky in that my stepmum drives me there and back as she knows that if things overwhelm me then I have an escape route and she can drive me back home quickly to my safe space. We tend to go down around 9am when it's really quiet. Most of the shops don't open till 10am. Both my stepmum and dad do the weekly shop as I have major problems with going into supermarkets.

    I work at night from home and during the summer months I end my working 'day' by going for a walk around 5-5.30am. Obviously not an ideal solution for many. It's a lovely peaceful time of day and I only ever see a few early morning dog walkers. I mainly walk around main roads as I am slightly nervous in going into green spaces at that time of the morning. 

    I also have mental health issues. The other day I went to see the psychiatrist, totally broke down in front of him only for him to say at the end of the appointment 'You seem to be doing very well'. Totally patronising and inaccurate. Also I was finding it difficult to articulate myself properly. He said to me to take my time whilst constantly looking at the clock! I left and went into a complete state of shock, shaking, difficulty in breathing, felt like I was going to pass out and exceptionally inarticulate when I phoned my stepmum (yes she's awesome) to say that my appointment had ended. She came and walked me back to the car where we just sat and then we drove home and then I shut down for 4-5 hours.

    If any one has any advice for this it would be most welcomed. I'm desperately in need of going to the dentist who is a stern, brash and very in-your-face (both physically and verbally) person. 2-3 weeks prior to an appointment my anxiety starts to grow. I cannot afford to go private and unfortunately there is a severe shortage of dentists where I live and so I am unable to change practices. Does anyone have any advice?

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  • Hi #Purple. I too like many of the posts before have exactly the same problem. If I'm going into town (it's a very small one comprised of one street) I'm lucky in that my stepmum drives me there and back as she knows that if things overwhelm me then I have an escape route and she can drive me back home quickly to my safe space. We tend to go down around 9am when it's really quiet. Most of the shops don't open till 10am. Both my stepmum and dad do the weekly shop as I have major problems with going into supermarkets.

    I work at night from home and during the summer months I end my working 'day' by going for a walk around 5-5.30am. Obviously not an ideal solution for many. It's a lovely peaceful time of day and I only ever see a few early morning dog walkers. I mainly walk around main roads as I am slightly nervous in going into green spaces at that time of the morning. 

    I also have mental health issues. The other day I went to see the psychiatrist, totally broke down in front of him only for him to say at the end of the appointment 'You seem to be doing very well'. Totally patronising and inaccurate. Also I was finding it difficult to articulate myself properly. He said to me to take my time whilst constantly looking at the clock! I left and went into a complete state of shock, shaking, difficulty in breathing, felt like I was going to pass out and exceptionally inarticulate when I phoned my stepmum (yes she's awesome) to say that my appointment had ended. She came and walked me back to the car where we just sat and then we drove home and then I shut down for 4-5 hours.

    If any one has any advice for this it would be most welcomed. I'm desperately in need of going to the dentist who is a stern, brash and very in-your-face (both physically and verbally) person. 2-3 weeks prior to an appointment my anxiety starts to grow. I cannot afford to go private and unfortunately there is a severe shortage of dentists where I live and so I am unable to change practices. Does anyone have any advice?

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