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Advice please - think I made a terrible mistake

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So I was referred for an autism assessment last year and am still waiting to be seen (am expecting a LONG wait to be frank).

I am also preparing to become a trainee teacher in September. I didn't mention the fact that I'm possibly autistic in the interview because I honestly didn't think I needed to.

Anyway, a few weeks ago I had a disastrous meeting with a course lead. I think I was way too honest and blunt and kept digging myself into holes. Afterwards I felt guilty and didn't want her to think I had been a *** on purpose, so I emailed and apologised, and - here's the kicker - told her I'm on the spectrum.

Now, I think I am, but I have NOT been formally diagnosed. I got an email from the course provider this morning saying that in light of my recent disclosure of being autistic, they're going to have to reevaluate my entire course offer and see if they're still willing to offer me a place, and in short, I might get thrown out of teacher training before I've even begun, because I told a woman that I'm autistic (which I still think I probably am).

I've responded and explained that I'm waiting for diagnosis which is why I didn't formally disclose (because I didn't think it was appropriate) but I'm worried they're going to think I'm a pathological liar or something now and that I've ruined my career.

I am a complete idiot. What the hell do I do????

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  • I think I'd do nothing more at this point, cross my fingers and see what happens.

    You've been honest enthusiastic and done your best. If they don't want you, it'll be their loss.

    You could in the meantime go and test yourself on t'internet https://www.aspergerstestsite.com/ and if it scores you as non-aspergers or borderline, then you have some useful information. But as you pointed out you were referred for Autism and not yet diagnosed, making it a grey area as to whether you should tell them.  

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  • I think I'd do nothing more at this point, cross my fingers and see what happens.

    You've been honest enthusiastic and done your best. If they don't want you, it'll be their loss.

    You could in the meantime go and test yourself on t'internet https://www.aspergerstestsite.com/ and if it scores you as non-aspergers or borderline, then you have some useful information. But as you pointed out you were referred for Autism and not yet diagnosed, making it a grey area as to whether you should tell them.  

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