Long story short, i have had enough of my brothers son. he is 10 and been diagnosed with a myoclonic jerk he doesn't have autism or ADHD and he has already been assessed. what i am having an issue with is that my brother and his sons mother are separated and their using the child to get at each other and it's making the child spiteful. they excuse his behaviour on the myoclonic jerk.My nephew is destroying things if you don't give him the attention he wants and feels no regrets on breaking anyone else's stuff. he is swearing like a sailor and seems to enjoy inflicting verbal harm on others.
i am really concerned because my nephew has already killed dog by jumping on it prior to my brother and his ex partners separations and didn't show being upset about the dogs cruel death. what's worse is they just replaced the dog with another and its already needed optical surgery because my nephew has damaged his eye's. he has destroyed multiple high end electronics with no consequences i am talking about leading brand oled tv's, Nintendo switch's and xbox's (he broken 3 + of each object) and they keep replacing them. .
it's getting to the point that if you point out his behaviour to his parents or refuse to look after or interact with him you are attacked by the parents. i was playing minecraft with my nephew over the internet because his peers don't want to play with him. but the lass session was awful. he kept destroying stuff, kept being really spiteful on the game and being verbally abusive. at which point i said no more, i explained what he was doing wasn't okay and i wasn't going to play with him for the next seven days at which point he set everything i had built in the game on fire. i banned him from the realm which i pay for. an hour later i get a phone call with my brother telling me to grow up and tolerate it i am an adult.
my sister who lives in the dysfunctional hell scape is being my mother and stepfather's home are being forced to look after our nephew against their will, my sister has noticed the spitfuel and dangerous behaviour. she witnessed him on multiple occasions throwing stones at the family cat.when caught my nephew said he was trying to kill the cat.
the thing is i am autistic and have ADHD and their comparing my behaviour as a child with my nephews. i had autism meltdowns as a child and broke stuff time to time is was undiagnosed until aged 22 but my nephew behaviour is not a result of a meltdown or emotional impulsivity. my nephew is a physically talking time to process the information and decides to do the most hurtful act.
how do you navigate the situation and say no more when brother is not dealing with it and when you say no you in the wrong. my sister has said she no longer wants to look after him but my brother emotionally blackmails our mother to look after him which often lead to sister being left with him as mum has to go to work.
