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Post adult diagnosis

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Hey

Just a quick background. Got a bad neck injury at work in 2020 and with the isolation and lockdowns I started to really think that I may be autistic (I always had some inkling and often said I was probably so to others when quizzed about my contrarian outlook to things and got a couple beratings for insensitive comments saying so too) so I obsessively researched to find something to disprove my thoughts and couldn't find a reason... . Fast forward to Feb of this year and low and behold after a year of doubting myself (my friends and family basically mocked me for thinking so) I was officially diagnosed... I was initially very happy to finally put some understanding to my issues.

Now in June everyone bar my mom has deserted me. My brother barely has time for himself so I can't be annoyed at him (although he definitely has become more distant).. And the few friends I thought I had have also disappeared and slowly stopped responding to my texts. This is so upsetting, it's like it was all for nothing.. Like what the f***, why am I now a complete pariah when some support is needed the most. 10 years I've known these 4 people... 

Anyone here had any similar experiences or advice for me please :(

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  • I can't think of anything to say to make you feel better about this, because I don't know how I would deal with if either.

    I'm autistic, I haven't told anyone yet, recently coming to that confirmation rather than realization.

    What I can tell you tho, is how I deal with things,

    For us, autistic people, we do incredibly well on our own.

    So I want to ask you if you ever felt that you'd be okay even if everyone left you?

    Even if the whole world is against you? You would still be okay.

    I know it hurts, being alone, we're still human, but we're also autistic, being alone is what recharges us.

    It's also very empowering to think this way isn't it?

    Please don't focus on the things that hurt you, or the people that leave you.

    You just do what feels right to you and don't stress over what feels right for other people.

    We are built differently, so you find out what you want out of this life and what you need to get there and focus on that.

    Keep moving forward and never look back.

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  • I can't think of anything to say to make you feel better about this, because I don't know how I would deal with if either.

    I'm autistic, I haven't told anyone yet, recently coming to that confirmation rather than realization.

    What I can tell you tho, is how I deal with things,

    For us, autistic people, we do incredibly well on our own.

    So I want to ask you if you ever felt that you'd be okay even if everyone left you?

    Even if the whole world is against you? You would still be okay.

    I know it hurts, being alone, we're still human, but we're also autistic, being alone is what recharges us.

    It's also very empowering to think this way isn't it?

    Please don't focus on the things that hurt you, or the people that leave you.

    You just do what feels right to you and don't stress over what feels right for other people.

    We are built differently, so you find out what you want out of this life and what you need to get there and focus on that.

    Keep moving forward and never look back.

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