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abloner

I usually lose any control of myself if I plunge in a conversation with somebody. Some short exchanges are structurally short lived (like with a shopkeeper, or if you ask an information to a passerby in the street). But if the conversation has some consistence and durance I lose completely control and I need often a long time to reconstruct the bubble in which I live (in which I only may live). One technique I employ with some success is to devote myself to solitaries for some time after quitting the exchange. As solitaries (free cell for example) engage the left hemisphere only, I hypothesize that engaging the left hemisphere I may put the right one at work to rebuild my emotional bubble. I may suggest that this is one reason for which people in the autistic spectrum tend to “lecture” others. Lecturing others about some subject you think you know well avoids dialogue and maintains your false “integrity”.

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  • There is an element of diffidence if not outright hostility in communication among humans. Or so I live this communication.  I only trust middle aged ladies who express sympathy for my dog.

     We live in mazes, cultural mazes, power mazes and wealth mazes , where we never meet each other, nor we find an exit. We don’t know how much money the other has, how much power (in terms of formal status, of helping relationships – allies – and cultural background, which also can be converted in power). In other terms we don’t know the weaponry at disposal of the others, which we potentially mistrust, knowing so little of them. Charm and politeness may always be only some good acting.

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  • There is an element of diffidence if not outright hostility in communication among humans. Or so I live this communication.  I only trust middle aged ladies who express sympathy for my dog.

     We live in mazes, cultural mazes, power mazes and wealth mazes , where we never meet each other, nor we find an exit. We don’t know how much money the other has, how much power (in terms of formal status, of helping relationships – allies – and cultural background, which also can be converted in power). In other terms we don’t know the weaponry at disposal of the others, which we potentially mistrust, knowing so little of them. Charm and politeness may always be only some good acting.

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