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abloner

I usually lose any control of myself if I plunge in a conversation with somebody. Some short exchanges are structurally short lived (like with a shopkeeper, or if you ask an information to a passerby in the street). But if the conversation has some consistence and durance I lose completely control and I need often a long time to reconstruct the bubble in which I live (in which I only may live). One technique I employ with some success is to devote myself to solitaries for some time after quitting the exchange. As solitaries (free cell for example) engage the left hemisphere only, I hypothesize that engaging the left hemisphere I may put the right one at work to rebuild my emotional bubble. I may suggest that this is one reason for which people in the autistic spectrum tend to “lecture” others. Lecturing others about some subject you think you know well avoids dialogue and maintains your false “integrity”.

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  • Indeed, well put Abloner. I well know what it feels like to have my efforts viewed as some sort of trickery, duplicity, insincerity....if you have to act up what should come naturally to every "normal" person you must be up to something. Especially to cliques (where trying to learn the routines that form their little mind games marks you out as an outsider), or with people who insist on being unrealistically respected (and view someone trying to do this as hamming it to be impertinent).

    Because of all the effort, I seem to have only one pitch of language. I talk to high ups and low downs much the same, not to insult but just because its enough to keep up one kind of appearances.

    But tell that to all those consultants and interventionists out there, with their methods for sorting kids' minds out so supposedly they will somehow be cured. They have no comprehension of the subtleties of social communication, or what it is like to try to act it out, rather than do it naturally.

    We should be rewarded for trying - instead we get kicked for it.  No wonder so many people on the spectrum become distressed or depressed. Its a very harsh world out there if your speech patterns and gestures don't match the norm

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  • Indeed, well put Abloner. I well know what it feels like to have my efforts viewed as some sort of trickery, duplicity, insincerity....if you have to act up what should come naturally to every "normal" person you must be up to something. Especially to cliques (where trying to learn the routines that form their little mind games marks you out as an outsider), or with people who insist on being unrealistically respected (and view someone trying to do this as hamming it to be impertinent).

    Because of all the effort, I seem to have only one pitch of language. I talk to high ups and low downs much the same, not to insult but just because its enough to keep up one kind of appearances.

    But tell that to all those consultants and interventionists out there, with their methods for sorting kids' minds out so supposedly they will somehow be cured. They have no comprehension of the subtleties of social communication, or what it is like to try to act it out, rather than do it naturally.

    We should be rewarded for trying - instead we get kicked for it.  No wonder so many people on the spectrum become distressed or depressed. Its a very harsh world out there if your speech patterns and gestures don't match the norm

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