communication

I usually lose any control of myself if I plunge in a conversation with somebody. Some short exchanges are structurally short lived (like with a shopkeeper, or if you ask an information to a passerby in the street). But if the conversation has some consistence and durance I lose completely control and I need often a long time to reconstruct the bubble in which I live (in which I only may live). One technique I employ with some success is to devote myself to solitaries for some time after quitting the exchange. As solitaries (free cell for example) engage the left hemisphere only, I hypothesize that engaging the left hemisphere I may put the right one at work to rebuild my emotional bubble. I may suggest that this is one reason for which people in the autistic spectrum tend to “lecture” others. Lecturing others about some subject you think you know well avoids dialogue and maintains your false “integrity”.

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  • A further thing that blocks communication is your (our) detachment. Least you accept to pretend and act all your life (see if you can the BBC interview to Alec Guinness on YouTube) at a tremendous  cost and effort (and also paying the price  of perpetual insincerity) you make of your identity a private affair, Hyde and Jekyll; you separate yourself from humankind, you lose any interest in what happens and is relevant for others. The others you meet don’t know what is your problem but they subliminally perceive you fakery and will not help you in need. Where need is here affection, if not love, for you in all your complications.

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  • A further thing that blocks communication is your (our) detachment. Least you accept to pretend and act all your life (see if you can the BBC interview to Alec Guinness on YouTube) at a tremendous  cost and effort (and also paying the price  of perpetual insincerity) you make of your identity a private affair, Hyde and Jekyll; you separate yourself from humankind, you lose any interest in what happens and is relevant for others. The others you meet don’t know what is your problem but they subliminally perceive you fakery and will not help you in need. Where need is here affection, if not love, for you in all your complications.

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